Life's short, get a divorce

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

And there's a consequence when you kill, steal and bear false witness. Just like the marriage won't work if Christ isn't in that marriage.

That's a stupid, ignorant thing to say. There's a lot of atheists who are married with working marriages. Lower divorce rates than a lot of religious people too.

Are you the CG from Minnesota? I think you are. Lots of people here get divorced because the wife isn't the sexy Targetron she was at 23. Don't worry, though, they still go to church with their new mistress.

[James]

Whats a Targetron?

Originally Posted by GeekyPenguin

That's a stupid, ignorant thing to say. There's a lot of atheists who are married with working marriages. Lower divorce rates than a lot of religious people too.

Are you the CG from Minnesota? I think you are. Lots of people here get divorced because the wife isn't the sexy Targetron she was at 23. Don't worry, though, they still go to church with their new mistress.

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by James

Whats a Targetron?

The Target HQ is in downtown Minneapolis and there are a lot of young and beautiful women working there - think the adult equivalent of your Barbie-doll chapters thread.

[James]

Oh lol. thanks.

Originally Posted by GeekyPenguin

The Target HQ is in downtown Minneapolis and there are a lot of young and beautiful women working there - think the adult equivalent of your Barbie-doll chapters thread.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by GeekyPenguin

That's a stupid, ignorant thing to say. There's a lot of atheists who are married with working marriages. Lower divorce rates than a lot of religious people too.

Are you the CG from Minnesota? I think you are. Lots of people here get divorced because the wife isn't the sexy Targetron she was at 23. Don't worry, though, they still go to church with their new mistress.

o.k. o.k. calm down.

I don't disagree with everything you've just posted. The divorce rate is higher among Christians. Why? I don't know, but we'll have to agree to disagree, because I still think a couple should work through the tribulations, and through Christ it can be done. I can't speak for the Christians who get a divorce, but I know a lot that stay married.

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

o.k. o.k. calm down.

I don't disagree with everything you've just posted. The divorce rate is higher among Christians. Why? I don't know, but we'll have to agree to disagree, because I still think a couple should work through the tribulations, and through Christ it can be done. I can't speak for the Christians who get a divorce, but I know a lot that stay married.

Divorce rate is higher among evangelical Protestants. Catholics and Lutherans (who are still Christian!) have the lowest divorce rates of everyone. Don't throw all your Christians in one basket.

I really think this problem could be fixed if people would stop getting married just to have sex or because the girl is knocked up, but that would probably require some pastors to acknowledge that people still do it even after signing that True Love Waits card.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by GeekyPenguin

Divorce rate is higher among evangelical Protestants. Catholics and Lutherans (who are still Christian!) have the lowest divorce rates of everyone. Don't throw all your Christians in one basket.

I really think this problem could be fixed if people would stop getting married just to have sex or because the girl is knocked up, but that would probably require some pastors to acknowledge that people still do it even after signing that True Love Waits card.

lol at the girl being knocked up.

[PrettyBoy]

This is a good topic. I think the bottom line is if you aren't willing to sacrifice, then don't get married. Period.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

This is a good topic. I think the bottom line is if you aren't willing to sacrifice, then don't get married. Period.

I can't agree more. Of course there is more to it than that.

[PrettyBoy]

My parents have been married for 44 years. When my brother got married my dad just told him that if he's not willing to sacrifice, don't get married. That't who I got that from.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

The divorce rate is higher among Christians. Why? I don't know, but we'll have to agree to disagree, because I still think a couple should work through the tribulations, and through Christ it can be done. I can't speak for the Christians who get a divorce, but I know a lot that stay married.

So I have seen both a Buddhist Vietnamese wedding and both Muslim and Hindu weddings have been described to me. So, if one is not a Christian, how do they allow Christ to assist a couple in their marriages?

Rarely do I see Muslims getting divorced. Rarely.

For that matter, rarely do I see Hindus getting divorced...

I'm sure it happens, but I don't know anyone who has gotten divorced.

In generally, American society gets divorced. It doesn't matter what God they believe. Hayle, they can worship the Devil, they still get divorced...

Marriages are NOT fairy tales. They are serious. I don't think this seriousness is relayed.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

So I have seen both a Buddhist Vietnamese wedding and both Muslim and Hindu weddings have been described to me. So, if one is not a Christian, how do they allow Christ to assist a couple in their marriages?

Rarely do I see Muslims getting divorced. Rarely.

For that matter, rarely do I see Hindus getting divorced...

I'm sure it happens, but I don't know anyone who has gotten divorced.

In generally, American society gets divorced. It doesn't matter what God they believe. Hayle, they can worship the Devil, they still get divorced...

Marriages are NOT fairy tales. They are serious. I don't think this seriousness is relayed.

Sorry. I had to log off for a second. I was cooking something and I forgot it was in the oven. It's burned. Oh well.

Back on topic.

The divorce rate in higher in the United States than any other country. I think other beliefs and cultures just believe in working things out. Americans don't.

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Sorry. I had to log off for a second. I was cooking something and I forgot it was in the oven. It's burned. Oh well.

Back on topic.

The divorce rate in higher in the United States than any other country. I think other beliefs and cultures just believe in working things out. Americans don't.

Or a lot of other countries don't have no-fault divorce and we do and a lot of other countries don't frown on cohabitation prior to marriage and we do.

[KSig RC]

What is so positive about "just working things out?"

What if things CAN'T be "worked out"?

The irony here is that it's a very American viewpoint that therapy can solve all issues - that's not at all true. All the counseling in the world can't save a bad marriage - and people change over time. The desire to be married by a certain (usually young) age carries the risk of change, the risk of divorce - and bending over backwards to make it work, while certainly a romantic ideal, seems counterproductive, tedious, and borderline insane to me.

You can't foresee all the problems in a marriage, and you can't just up and decide to "make" something work. To think otherwise is at best arrogant.

[OneTimeSBX]

i saw a comedian joke about how it is cheap and quick to get married, and costs thousands to divorce. he claimed the divorce rate would be much lower if it were the other way around...

sounds funny, but doesnt that make sense? people would refuse to grant divorces to their significant other, saying "there is no way im divorcing you, do you know what i went thru to marry you??"

i dont believe in just waking up and saying, to hell with you, im leaving. i believe that it was created to end truly bad situations, i.e. abuse, etc. you dont always know what you are getting in a marriage, and its a shame people have just decided that spouses are like underwear: cheap and dispensable...