Legacy

KSUViolet06 · #1 05-09-2007, 07:06 PM

I think in some situations there is pressure. I think it's especially true in situations where the girl is a legacy of the sorority AND that chapter.

For example, this girl I know was a legacy to a sorority (lets call them XY) through her older sister, who was a senior and officer in the chapter. She of course wanted her sister to be an XY with her more than anything. This girl grew up in HS coming to the XY house and spending the night during Little Sibs weekend and coming to Homecoming cookouts. Her sister would always say stuff like, "When you move into the house next semester we can ____." So she pretty well assumed that when she came to college, she was going to be an XY.

Fast forward to recruitment, her sister got invited back to XY every round. She pretty well assumed that she'd end up there. For whatever reason (of course I'll never know), she was NOT INVITED TO PREF. She had a full schedule of pref parties so she had other options, but she didn't care. Since her sister had joined XY, she grew up hearing about how great it was and her sister saying she couldn't wait for her to come to KSU and join.

She was devastated. She dropped out of recruitment and transferred back home to a community college. She couldn't bear the thought of going to school with her sister and not being in the sorority. Her sister actually took early alumna status from the chapter because she was so upset over her sister being cut. She made no secret that she was extremely upset with the sorority and even sent their HQ a strongly worded letter.

So yes, there is pressure for legacies. I think that even when they try not to, the sister/mom/whoever can set them up for a bad ending by acting as if they are guaranteed a bid.

BabyPiNK_FL · #2 05-09-2007, 07:21 PM

OH.MY.GAWD.

I could not imagine in my wildest dreams, being around these women, spending the night several times in the house, having pretty much everyone know me, making it all the way to the night before pref and getting cut. I know that recruitment is recruitment, yadda yadda yadda, but if she wasn't super snotty or ultra rude or something like that (and you don't make it seem like she is at least). I mean, I know no group is obligated to take ANYBODY, but that is the ulltimate in cruel. There were no signs to her the people didn't "feel" her or anything. I mean, I know you will never know exactly why but...OMG, I...I don't even know what to make of that one. I would have probably had to see a counselor for that. That just seems like the ultimate "b*tch" slap upside the head.

mystikchick · #3 05-09-2007, 07:21 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

She was devastated. She dropped out of recruitment and transferred back home to a community college. She couldn't bear the thought of going to school with her sister and not being in the sorority. Her sister actually took early alumna status from the chapter because she was so upset over her sister being cut.

wow.

ErinIsBadNews · #4 05-09-2007, 07:49 PM

I think sometimes, in rare cases, knowing people in an organization can hurt you. If they know something compromising, it could be detrimental to you getting a bid. I know this sounds bad and I'm sure this was not the case in that situation, but if one of my sisters mentioned something about her younger sister's (i.e., an extreme drug addiction and refusal to get help), I am not sure I'd want her in my letters. I can't imagine being in thats girls situation and I'm sure it was terrible, I'm just saying....

bejazd · #5 05-09-2007, 10:42 PM

Oh, c'mon girls! If the sister of an active currently in the chapter goes through rush, she better have three heads and a tail before you cut her! Same goes for the legacy of your HCB president, or the alum that just donated your new piano. !!! eek.

It probably had more to do with the sister in the chapter than the PNM.

GDIfly · #6 05-10-2007, 03:02 AM

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Originally Posted by bejazd

It probably had more to do with the sister in the chapter than the PNM.

It must have, cutting her sister is pretty much guaranteeing that the older sister will quit the chapter, they probably saw it as a convenient way to get rid of her.

But dropping out of a 4 year school to go to community college just because you didn't get the sorority of your choice? ouch... someone doesn't have their priorities straight.

33girl · #7 05-10-2007, 07:59 AM

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Originally Posted by bejazd

Oh, c'mon girls! If the sister of an active currently in the chapter goes through rush, she better have three heads and a tail before you cut her! Same goes for the legacy of your HCB president, or the alum that just donated your new piano. !!! eek.

It probably had more to do with the sister in the chapter than the PNM.

One of our chapter sisters who was not everyone's favorite had her bio sister go through rush (they were 2 years apart). When we were voting on little sis, big sis left the room. One sister said "Little Sis isn't anything like Big Sis. She's a really nice girl." She didn't mean it to come out that way, but everyone cracked up, esp since this wasn't a sister known for her sense of humor. We pledged Little Sis and everything was fine.

The only other bio sister I remember wasn't on good terms with her sister that was in our chapter and really wanted nothing to do with us. We were cool with that (they had some REALLY serious family issues, so whatever they did we just said oooookay) but we did laugh hard when she was complaining about her sisters a year or two later.

FSUZeta · #8 05-10-2007, 08:12 AM

joe scott, i certainly can't blame you and your brothers for having issues with your chapter brother who has created problems for your chapter. however, i hope that you all will take the high road for the sake of the younger brother, and not offer him a bid-in fact, just don't invite him back at all(when you start issuing invitations). you will be doing the kindest thing for this young man-giving him a chance to join another fraternity.

Drolefille · #9 05-10-2007, 01:13 PM

Vote on him last?
Make sure the guy's in trouble when it comes to voting so he doesn't get to attend the meeting?