Legacy

[aopirose]

A woman that I know has been practicing her mantra for years, "God made us mother and daughter but only You can make us sisters."

[bejazd]

I suppose that with the new RFM (which I totally support..it's long overdue!) sorority legacies are going to have it a bit tougher time perhaps than non-legacies. The sororities have the uneviable task of trying to figure out amongst potentially hundreds of PNMs who is a good candidate for membership and is likely to accept their invitation...nearly impossible when you can't truly know the heart and mind of the PNM!

So let each PNM be her own person, and let each chapter stand on its own merit, here and now. And remember the quality of a sisterhood or membership experience is not solely defined by whether or not a chapter makes quota. Do the women truly care about each other? Are they having fun? Becoming better people because they joined and participate? Are they promoting the values of their org through their actions? That's the measure of a great chapter, and a quality membership experience.

We girls get too emotionally tied up with the whole legacy thing initially, but we get over it. There are six different NPCs represented at our family's dinner table at Christmas...a regular panhel meeting! Glad I have boys. My kids are both SAE and Sigma Chi legacies...Dad and grandpa don't care which frat they might choose...they want them to be good men.

[AOII Angel]

Bravo Bejazd

[honeychile]

It totally depends on the family, the amount of pressure, and the type of pressure. I was a Kappa legacy, obviously went ADPi, and it wasn't until this past summer that my mother finally understood the why I chose ADPi over Kappa. The pressure on me (the only granddaughter!) extended to my bedroom being light & dark blue, and a collection of keys on the one wall!

A close alumna friend of mine was a triple legacy. She just didn't feel as if she fit in, and was SO relieved when her legacy chapter cut her. Her grandmother freaked out, but my friend is really happy, to the point of having held international offices.

Then the story that a lot of y'all have heard - there was a five-generation legacy in my chapter, and she just did NOT want to be in a sorority! She did pledge, got initiated at Convention, then transferred to another school that didn't have ADPi. We knew she didn't want to join, but were told that that no possible way we could drop her. I don't see a six generation legacy happening - at least, not with her mother's prodding!

As for dropping a legacy just prior to or after Pref - wow! I can't even picture a circumstance where that would be appropriate, short of the legacy pulling a Lizzie Bordan!

[OleMissGlitter]

Originally Posted by aopirose

A woman that I know has been practicing her mantra for years, "God made us mother and daughter but only You can make us sisters."

That's a good way to put it!

I know for me I was pretty much open and liked all of the sororities at Ole Miss. I have legacies at AOII and Theta and then my aunts were Kappa's and I had recs for all of the sororities at Ole Miss. Now of course AOII means so much more to me that my great-grandmother was an AOII and then my mother and my sister are AOII's as well...however, I think in the long run it always seems to work out.

I personally know a girl who went to Ole Miss who was a triple legacy to a very old chapter at Ole Miss, she ended up going AOII (one of her sisters had even just graduated from Ole Miss and was still on campus in grad school) and in the long run she was an officer for AOII and an outstanding member. I think her sisters and her mother were more devastated because their own family member was released from this house. However, this chapter probably gets over 100 legacies a year so for them to give a bid to every legacy would be impossible and it wouldn't allow for much diversity. I sort of take the motto that "everything happens for a reason."

I also know some AOII's whose mothers were members of other sororities at Ole Miss, and those mothers are very involved with AOII Parents' Club and help during recruitment. I even know one mother who would go and help with AOII recruitment for the first two rounds or parties and then go to her own sorority to help with pref parties. Pretty cool if you ask me. I think it's all about accepting that your daughter/sister/etc might want to be something else in life. With most Greek systems increasing and getting larger I think it's going to be harder and harder for every legacy to get a bid from their legacy.