I know my house just bid a guy who has been married already. He's a brother, and what it comes down to is his dedication and character. Both of which are strong.
Currently we have a brother who just got engaged, we're not shunning him. I am certain that if your guy has the right reasons, he will be able to find a house that fits him perfectly. Sometimes, its not all about age, its about heart.
One of my chapter's founding fathers was a 37 year old Navy Vet, he was a great guy and we were all very sad when he flunked out. He served long enough to get his pension and therefore wasn't really motivated to do well in school and considering his age, it was hard for us to "make" him study. I guess that's one downside of having an older brother is that sometimes they don't think the rules apply to them.
If he is cool and people like him they shouldn't have a problem.
A lot of time resume factors are used to eliminate someone people just don't like that much or are considered marginal for whatever reason . . Fraternities don't have upper limts to membership so there is no space problem.
One semester my chapter had two pledges that were older than any of the brothers. One was active in the Marines for several years before going to college and the other...well, I don't know why he waited so long. The were both like 25 or so.
They made excellent brothers and are still very dedicated after graduation. They do have a little different of a mindset though. They have lived a few years and won't put up with the same shit a freshman will, BUT once they committed they would stick through just about anything.
Thank you so much guys for the words of wisdom....He is totally dedicated and I know this because he is gonna' bust his butt to go to Medical School (he's very intelligent) so he would help with the chapter G.P.A. He has also helped out with my sorority's philanthropy events. At my school-we have the largest student run philanthrophy in the world and he has helped with that. He wants to make time for a fraternity because he knows that I would gladly help out w/ the fraternity with anything they would need because I love my greek experience and know he would too. I would never get upset if he had things he had to do with the chapter because as a greek from a national sorority-I would understand. I know it sounds horrible but, I'm really all about him joining a fraternity because I think so much higher of men who have shown commitment to an organization and a great group of other men. It shows they have drive and are willing to do philanthropy. My guy agrees and knows how strong I feel about this. My uncle was a Sig Chi at PSU and I have the uttmost respect for him because of that...I think the same about women in sororities....even if you aren't in mine...I have respect for you because it shows someone who is willing to stick to something....So-he and I aren't looking at "who's who on campus" the way we care about where he fits in and the guys treat him great!!! He has been to Iraq twice and he's good at what he does...now it's time for him to show he can be a soldier but, also a good college student and fraternity man...any suggestions would be nice guys-thanx for your help!!!!
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