advice needed...

[Scandia]

At least you are feeling the NO. With the last guy I dated, though I certainly was not attracted to him (and my friends pointed out they could tell about the lack of chemistry in various dimensions from the way I talked about him- physical, mental, emotional), I was not quite feeling a strong NEVER either.

When this guy declared his feelings for me at the end of the third date (which I really had to ponder about going to, and which I prevented from being prolonged even though I did not cut it short), I told him that my feelings were not at that level but that he was a great person and absolutely nothing in his essence/status/actions/omissions is responsible for my not feeling the same way for him. That you are just not feeling any chemistry.

Definitely don't force yourself. Especially if you are feeling a definite clear NO.