Don't Fit in....

[susan314]

Originally Posted by navane

Just give it some more time. Like KSUViolet06 said, it's only been a few weeks. If you have to, go to a sister you like (perhaps your new member educator) and explain to her that you're feeling a little left out and ask if she has any advice.

This is a good idea - the members of the chapter don't know how you're feeling if you don't confide in someone. I'd recommend talking with someone that you feel comfortable with (new member educator, your big, or any other active member). You may be pleasantly surprised at how they step up when they realize that you're not feeling included.

If you're still feeling that way after expressing your feelings and going through your pledge term, then you still have time to decide before initiating whether you really made the right choice for you. But I have a feeling that with time and letting a trusted member know how you feel, the situation will resolve itself.

Good luck!

[AOE2AlphaPhi]

I'd suggest that you talk to one of the older girls who you relate to and who you can trust to be discrete about your concerns. I know a lot of girls who were concerned about their sororities or pledge classes or whatever else before they were initiated and talking to initiated members they trusted really helped them get a different perspective on their situation.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by Jen

Echo the above, but I want to add that if you make an effort to get to know more people, you confide your feelings to members etc and you STILL don't feel you're in the right place after giving it some time, DO NOT go through initiation.

Agreed...if by the 5th week you are still not happy, do NOT go through initiation. Once initiated, and then you resign, you cannot join another NPC sorority.