my recruitment experience so far

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by lacavazzini

i mentioned this before but i wanted to know if this helps me at all .. my cousin is an active in my top sorority .. if i've made it through to the third round(philanthropy), would you guys feel bad about dropping a senior active's cousin or giving her a bad comment on her review?

No, especially if she thought she had a great chance at joining just because she's a legacy. You are your own person, not an extension of your relative and if you don't mesh well with the chapter, I won't hesitate to drop or make a bad comment.

[lacavazzini]

no i definitely dont think im getting in just because i have a family member in my top choice .. i think i really clicked with the girls and a lot of the girls have said they had heard about me from my cousin and were excited to meet me .. im just really stressed out with classes and rushing and other things that i need a little bit of comfort and wanted to know if this helps me in the least. i know everyone ends up where they belong but ive heard this so much im starting to doubt it and think girls say it just to say it.

[Leslie Anne]

For the most part, when people say "you end up where you belong" it really is true. The thing is though that "where you belong" doesn't necessarily mean your top choice. Often PNMs think that they belong in their top choice when it doesn't really work that way.

As for having a cousin in a sorority you like, I'd have to echo what Centaur said. It's great to have close friends or relations in a chapter but when it comes down to it, it really means diddly. Unless you're a legacy (and I'm not sure about other NPCs, but in KD a cousin is not a legacy) extra thought isn't given to relations. It all comes down to whether or not you fit with the chapter.

I don't mean to be overly negative here. I know recruitment can be stressful. Unfortunately, there really isn't much comfort to be found since you can never know for sure what's going to happen. The important thing is to keep an open mind about all 4 of your remaining options.

Good luck with the rest of recruitment! I hope you'll be happy in the end.