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01-22-2007, 08:26 PM
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I realize that guys are often trained to do it and women are not, but I hold doors for other people when I can, period, even if it's for a guy. It just seems like the nice thing to do if you got to the door first.
If I'm walking with a guy that I know was raised to hold door, like any male member of my family, I'll kind of wait to let them get it for me, but with everyone else, it's just who gets there first.
It's funny sometimes at work, when I'll get the office door for a group of us going in, that some guys cannot let you hold the door for them, and that, I think, is funny.
We should just be nice to each other generally. Sure, teach your male kids to be gentlemen to women, but mainly teach them to treat other PEOPLE well.
ETA: you know what kind of old fashioned thing that I really like to see men do? Hold coats for women to put on. Does anyone else know what I mean? Imagine your grandparents leaving a party to which they both wore coats.
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01-22-2007, 09:37 PM
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ETA: you know what kind of old fashioned thing that I really like to see men do? Hold coats for women to put on. Does anyone else know what I mean? Imagine your grandparents leaving a party to which they both wore coats.
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With out formal staff to assist, the gentleman assists the lady with her coat. Then the gentleman may put his own coat on. This is similar to being seated for dinner. The gentlemen assist the ladies first, then they may seat themselves.
And if a male host escorts their guests to the door, it is appropriate for him to assist both the lady and the gentleman. And while I am not certain, I would guess that it would be appropriate for the female host to assist a lady with her coat as well.
As for within the family, it is always appropriate for those who are younger, to offer assistance to those who are older. Regardless of gender.
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01-22-2007, 11:00 PM
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I'm sorry, but again, I think that is one of the more "silly" things to me.
"assist" me in putting my coat on? What am I , 5? I'm perfectly capable of putting my coat on by myself, along with finding and sitting in my own seat.
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01-22-2007, 11:36 PM
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I'm sorry, but again, I think that is one of the more "silly" things to me.
"assist" me in putting my coat on? What am I , 5? I'm perfectly capable of putting my coat on by myself, along with finding and sitting in my own seat.
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It's not about what you are capable of; it's about serving you in a way that shows caring.
No one thinks you NEED that kind of assistance.
The chair thing always makes me feel awkward, but it's my problem not the guy's.
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01-23-2007, 12:08 AM
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Originally Posted by Alphagamuga
It's not about what you are capable of; it's about serving you in a way that shows caring.
No one thinks you NEED that kind of assistance.
The chair thing always makes me feel awkward, but it's my problem not the guy's.
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See, my way of caring is cooking for the boy. His way of caring is eating everything, telling me he loved it and doing the dishes. He can help me with my coat when I break my arm 
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01-23-2007, 02:16 AM
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Originally Posted by Alphagamuga
It's not about what you are capable of; it's about serving you in a way that shows caring.
No one thinks you NEED that kind of assistance.
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Amen. Goodness knows that I don't mind being treated special. 
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01-23-2007, 09:32 AM
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Originally Posted by Alphagamuga
It's not about what you are capable of; it's about serving you in a way that shows caring.
No one thinks you NEED that kind of assistance.
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Originally Posted by Alphagamuga
We should just be nice to each other generally. Sure, teach your male kids to be gentlemen to women, but mainly teach them to treat other PEOPLE well.
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Exactly. It's about teaching your kids, male or female, to think of other people before they think of themselves.
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01-23-2007, 10:40 AM
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This reminds me of Blast From The Past, the cute movie with Brendan Fraser, Alicia Silverstone, Christopher Walken and Sissy Spacek. Brendan Fraser's character quotes his mother: "Manners are a way of showing other people we care about them."
(Thanks to IMDB)
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0124298/
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01-23-2007, 01:03 AM
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Originally Posted by Alphagamuga
We should just be nice to each other generally. Sure, teach your male kids to be gentlemen to women, but mainly teach them to treat other PEOPLE well.
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MAJOR cosign on that one.
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