Deltas I truly need ya'll help

ColorfulCre8ion · #1 01-18-2007, 02:06 PM

So if you don't accept someone's lifestyle then you have to mistreat them?? You can verbally express that you don't accept someone's lifestyle and then leave it at that. Its how they handle their unacceptance that I had an issue with NOT THE MERE FACT THAT THEY DIDNT ACCEPT IT. Again you can dislike someone but that doesn’t give you the right to mistreat them and that was my issue. I don't understand how you could not understand the difference

I know that Nationals cannot solve anything, which was the information that I received from posting on here. Prior to posting I wasn’t sure what to do because I had talked to prophytes, my advisor, and others and the behavior still carried on. This is why I sought advice to gain insight as to what to do next because I was confused, hurt, angry and a host of other emotions.

I didn't disclose any information about my chapter, school, or anything so as far as I am concern the issue is still 'in-house'. I was seeking advice for myself and I received that. (Thanks to those that gave me some)

So Reds6, if you don't have any pearls of wisdom to give.... then I no longer need to hear from you, thank you!

DSTCHAOS · #2 01-18-2007, 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by ColorfulCre8ion

So Reds6, if you don't have any pearls of wisdom to give.... then I no longer need to hear from you, thank you!

Now, hold up. You've been a Delta for a day and you're coming at someone who has been a Soror for over a decade. Ignore her posts if you choose, but slow your roll because she isn't coming at you like that. You might've had a difficult time being a lesbian Delta but I damn sure know you were taught about deference. Or, I hope you were.

As far as the rest of your posts, I understand that you expected them NOT to mistreat you and for them NOT to sit around while you became the joke of the campus. You didn't think they'd be a huge fan of your homosexuality but they'd at least accept you and be there for you to talk to them. I completely understand that. I say give it time and hopefully they will learn from this experience as you are. They may look back and slap themselve in the face for their reactions. Just be prepared to be open minded and forgiving.

Reds6 · #3 01-18-2007, 02:52 PM

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Now, hold up. You've been a Delta for a day and you're coming at someone who has been a Soror for over a decade. Ignore her posts if you choose, but slow your roll because she isn't coming at you like that. You might've had a difficult time being a lesbian Delta but I damn sure know you were taught about deference. Or, I hope you were.

As far as the rest of your posts, I understand that you expected them NOT to mistreat you and for them NOT to sit around while you became the joke of the campus. You didn't think they'd be a huge fan of your homosexuality but they'd at least accept you and be there for you to talk to them. I completely understand that. I say give it time and hopefully they will learn from this experience as you are. They may look back and slap themselve in the face for their reactions. Just be prepared to be open minded and forgiving.

Hey she doesn't know discretion, so I really don't expect her to know deference.

Reds6 · #4 01-18-2007, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by ColorfulCre8ion

So if you don't accept someone's lifestyle then you have to mistreat them?? You can verbally express that you don't accept someone's lifestyle and then leave it at that. Its how they handle their unacceptance that I had an issue with NOT THE MERE FACT THAT THEY DIDNT ACCEPT IT. Again you can dislike someone but that doesn’t give you the right to mistreat them and that was my issue. I don't understand how you could not understand the difference

I know that Nationals cannot solve anything, which was the information that I received from posting on here. Prior to posting I wasn’t sure what to do because I had talked to prophytes, my advisor, and others and the behavior still carried on. This is why I sought advice to gain insight as to what to do next because I was confused, hurt, angry and a host of other emotions.

I didn't disclose any information about my chapter, school, or anything so as far as I am concern the issue is still 'in-house'. I was seeking advice for myself and I received that. (Thanks to those that gave me some)

So Reds6, if you don't have any pearls of wisdom to give.... then I no longer need to hear from you, thank you!

I think I stated I didn't condone the behavior of the chapter.
Also you don't have to disclose the name or location of the chapter, to know where it is; especially if you are being ridiculed on campus. I guess you would be the only person on this national site from your school,right?
You asked for thoughts and opinions and I gave you mine, whether you want to read them or not. Apparently you are looking for validation instead of insight or opinions, in that case don't post personal situations on a message board and ask for feedback. I asked questions because I question the validity of the post, not that I condone someone being mistreated, so don't get it twisted. And spare me with the pearls of wisdom remark, I'm approaching 12 years in Delta, not a semester.

Look I can care less who anybody is licking or sticking on a daily basis. Just like I wouldn't go out and announce I'm hetro, why feel the need to announce you're gay. Be you, be owt, and if you feel the need to talk about your girlfriend do so without looking for validation from others.

dzdst796 · #5 01-18-2007, 03:55 PM

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OK. Now you have crossed the line. I fully understand that you are dealing with issues on your yard and like I have told you in my PM's if I was your prophyte I would definitely address your line sisters behavior. But when you make a snide comment regarding my PROPHYTE (Reds6) I must draw the line. Don't get your panties in a bunch because you don't like what she is saying. You state you posted on this board because you needed some guidance and from what I have read you have been given some - regardless of whether it is helpful to you or not. Like I was taught you listen to all information and you take from it what is useful and disregard the rest.

P.S. Just like I said I would ride with my line sisters that also goes for my prophytes. We are not called Wreckin' DZ for nothing.

dzdst796 · #6 01-18-2007, 04:11 PM

And another thing you have been a Delta for a minute so you need to slow your roll and keep in mind that this light crap compared to other issues you might face - Like if you road trip to Jersey. You run into me and my line sisters I can tell you that being gay is going to be the least of your problems. You need to make sure you know your Delta info and review our P&T. Yes I am pissed.

Reds6 · #7 01-18-2007, 04:27 PM

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And another thing you have been a Delta for a minute so you need to slow your roll and keep in mind that this light crap compared to other issues you might face - Like if you road trip to Jersey. You run into me and my line sisters I can tell you that being gay is going to be the least of your problems. You need to make sure you know your Delta info and review our P&T. Yes I am pissed.

Get it said! Awww my Neos!

mulattogyrl · #8 01-18-2007, 04:23 PM

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[COLOR=black]So Reds6, if you don't have any pearls of wisdom to give.... then I no longer need to hear from you, thank you!

Respect those that came before you. Be blessed.

ladygreek · #9 01-18-2007, 04:41 PM

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Originally Posted by ColorfulCre8ion

So Reds6, if you don't have any pearls of wisdom to give.... then I no longer need to hear from you, thank you!

BTW there is no such place as Nationals in Delta.

DSTKellie · #10 01-18-2007, 07:16 PM

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Originally Posted by ColorfulCre8ion

So Reds6, if you don't have any pearls of wisdom to give.... then I no longer need to hear from you, thank you!

Whoooaaa!! Hold on. Now I was on your side and I admit that what happened to you was very unfortunate but please believe that is no reason for disrespect! I understand that you maybe angry and frustrated but watch your tone and remember that no one on this board has insulted you or mistreated you. We don't know you so there is a lot to be asked and assumed just from your posts.

Remember Humility! My mother taught me that as a child, even if I was having a bad day, I BET not eva' disrespect her.

Best wishes to you.

ColorfulCre8ion · #11 01-18-2007, 07:20 PM

I apologize Soror Reds6. I was rude and out of line and I sincerely apologize to you and other Sorors.

DSTCHAOS · #12 01-18-2007, 07:55 PM

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I apologize Soror Reds6. I was rude and out of line and I sincerely apologize to you and other Sorors.

You're cool. Probably just felt overwhelmed.

pinkies up · #13 01-18-2007, 08:52 PM

I think what everyone has been trying to tell you that although it wasn't right for your LS's and Sorors to treat you like you were contagious, it does hurt when you are supposed to be close to people and you witheld information. I'm sure they shared intimate secrets with you. You have to understand their anger and hurt. No, they aren't right, but their feelings are valid. Maybe you all need to handle this in house, and then ban together as sisters. They need to understand that there's nothing other organizations love more than to see a house divided.

Reds6 · #14 01-18-2007, 10:12 PM

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Originally Posted by ColorfulCre8ion

I apologize Soror Reds6. I was rude and out of line and I sincerely apologize to you and other Sorors.

No problem young one. Just remember you may think people don't know what chapter or school you are speaking about, but you gave enough identifing information that wouldn't make it hard to find out. I'm sure any Soror on here would be glad to speak to you about personal situations in private. Just as your LS's need to uphold Delta, so do you.