What to bring

tunatartare · #1 10-30-2006, 08:47 PM

Usually when my mom has parties, and my mom is the queen of massive Thanksgiving gatherings, guests just bring one bottle of wine or vodka (did I mention we're Russian?) or a bottle of chocolates or something like that. It's more of a formality to show that you have good manners and that you appreciate his family inviting you over. If you bring enough food for the whole family, it may look like you're trying too hard. Also, in terms of cooking your own food, I would err on the side of caution, because your hostess may think that it looks like you're trying to upstage her or think that her food isn't good enough for you. Just a thought.

SigKapSweetie · #2 10-30-2006, 08:52 PM

Pie.

There can never be enough pie at Thanksgiving.

Peaches-n-Cream · #3 10-30-2006, 08:54 PM

You can bring dessert, flowers, and a bottle of wine. We have hosted a few holidays. Whenever guests bring these things, we are happy.

KunjaPrincess · #4 10-30-2006, 09:00 PM

Cheese tray and crackers!!! Simple and easy!

DSTCHAOS · #5 10-30-2006, 09:01 PM

I spent Thanksgiving with a friend last year and didn't bring anything. It would've been a nice gesture but I was told to forget Southern hospitality and just bring myself.

I would CHECK on whether or not they actually drink wine first. If so, bring a bottle of wine and/or ask if your boyfriend can suggest a dish. Also consider asking if there's anything his family needs you to pick up from the store on the way there. I say saving his family a last minute trip to the grocery store is more important than giving them a dish that they might already have or not need.

AlexMack · #6 10-30-2006, 09:07 PM

I agree with bringing a dessert. There's no such thing as too many desserts.

AChiOhSnap · #7 10-30-2006, 10:51 PM

Wine is always nice, but after a holiday with my BF's family, I'm usually glad I brought gin.

macallan25 · #8 10-31-2006, 12:47 AM

I would bring a bottle of wine.....perhaps scotch as well for the men. I wouldn't do food.......alot of families are very particular about what they serve for Thanksgiving....kind of like a tradition. I know with my family, we have the same dishes every year, sometimes slightly varying on the deserts.

Drolefille · #9 10-31-2006, 01:30 AM

If you're bringing food for the meal definately ask the family. If you're bringing a hostess gift, wine or something is good. Even if they don't drink wine often (or at all) it's an appropriate gift. I wouldn't bring wine/scotch/alcohol in general for the whole family without asking first.

Glitter650 · #10 10-31-2006, 06:03 PM

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Originally Posted by macallan25

I would bring a bottle of wine.....perhaps scotch as well for the men. I wouldn't do food.......alot of families are very particular about what they serve for Thanksgiving....kind of like a tradition. I know with my family, we have the same dishes every year, sometimes slightly varying on the deserts.

This is EXACTLY why I was hestitant about the bringing of food... the tradition and the whole... "upstaging the hostess" thing. I think I'm going to do some truffles as Vandal Squirell suggested and some flowers. Now... what to wear... hehe