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Originally Posted by dancergrl
I was pressured (dirty rush) into joining a house. I did not want to appear rude or ungrateful and i wanted it to work out, however, now i am an initiated member of a house where i do not like the people in it. I want to disaffiliate, however, if i do is there any way whatsoever that i can rush again? Greek life is big on campus and I would like to find a sorority where i belong, this house is not a match for me, the girls are weird and kinda mean. any advice would be great. thnks!
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I am sorry, but I have a problem with this. When you say 'pressured into joining a house', it sounds like you had a gun to your head or something. You say that you did not want to be rude, so does that mean that you did not want to join the house in the first place? Then why did you? I am not asking you to expose your business, but I do not understand how you could just let them talk you into joining. I can understand if you wanted to give them a try. But initiation = commitment. Pledging is not just about learning the sorority history. It is about knowing your chapter sisters and figuring out whether you want this for the long haul.
I told my chapter sisters that I believe joining a sorority is like marriage with pledging being the engagement. Make sure you are willing to commit BEFORE the 'wedding day/initiation'.
I am sorry if it seems like I am attacking you cause I am not. When a sorority wants you to join, they are giving you the option to decide if it is what you want. But I know that we are pass that point cause you already initiated. And I am sorry that it is too late to join another group. There are many reasons why that is the policy.
I agree with the others in trying to talk to your pledge sisters, but if you are really uncomfortable with them, then you can always join non Greek groups on campus.
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