Your thoughts on AI: discussion goes here.

[tunatartare]

Originally Posted by blueangel

In my opinion, the answer isn't shutting down these forums.. it's about universally enforcing the TOS throughout ALL the forums in Greek Chat.

OK, we get it, you're obsessed with the TOS and making sure that they are followed. You're not a mod, it's not your job. Get over it and get a hobby or something.

[blueangel]

Originally Posted by KLPDaisy

OK, we get it, you're obsessed with the TOS and making sure that they are followed. You're not a mod, it's not your job. Get over it and get a hobby or something.

No, I'm not a moderator here.. but I am a MEMBER here, and would like to see the TOS universally enforced so that I, and others, can participate without unprovoked personal attacks like the one you just made in the above quote.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by blueangel

No, I'm not a moderator here.. but I am a MEMBER here, and would like to see the TOS universally enforced so that I, and others, can participate without unprovoked personal attacks like the one you just made in the above quote.

Does that mean that her post is reported??

[tunatartare]

Originally Posted by blueangel

No, I'm not a moderator here.. but I am a MEMBER here, and would like to see the TOS universally enforced so that I, and others, can participate without unprovoked personal attacks like the one you just made in the above quote.

It is the job of moderators and the administrator to make sure that the TOS are universally enforced. You are neither. If you don't like the way that things are run on GC, leave. No one's begging you to stay, really.

[blueangel]

Originally Posted by KLPDaisy

It is the job of moderators and the administrator to make sure that the TOS are universally enforced. You are neither. If you don't like the way that things are run on GC, leave. No one's begging you to stay, really.

I would think that by now you would realize that your unprovoked personal attacks are not going to run me off. I will just continue to report them as members are allowed to do.

Now, can we please continue this discussion without getting personal?

[tunatartare]

How is it a personal attack? Seriously, is anyone allowed to say anything on GC anymore without you crying personal attack on them. You try to prevent harassment on GC, when in reality, you are the one doing most of the harassment.

[blueangel]

Originally Posted by KLPDaisy

How is it a personal attack? Seriously, is anyone allowed to say anything on GC anymore without you crying personal attack on them. You try to prevent harassment on GC, when in reality, you are the one doing most of the harassment.

Implying that someone has no life -- as in "need to get a hobby" is a personal attack. It's an interesting tactic that you have launching a personal attack and then accusing me of doing the harrassment. Do you consider having a differing opinion than you .. harrassment?

Now, can we please return to the discussion?

[tunatartare]

Originally Posted by blueangel

Implying that someone has no life -- as in "need to get a hobby" is a personal attack. It's an interesting tactic that you have launching a personal attack and then accusing me of doing the harrassment. Do you consider having a differing opinion than you .. harrassment?

Now, can we please return to the discussion?

I consider someone crying "personal attack" after every single post in a thread harassment. There are quite a few GC'ers who would agree with me.

[KunjaPrincess]

Originally Posted by blueangel

No, I'm not a moderator here.. but I am a MEMBER here, and would like to see the TOS universally enforced so that I, and others, can participate without unprovoked personal attacks like the one you just made in the above quote.

If you feel that is an attack you seriously need some thicker skin!!!

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by KunjaPrincess

If you feel that is an attack you seriously need some thicker skin!!!

Careful...she'll report you too for telling her to get thicker skin.

Where's that reported thread when you need it?? Can one of the Mods just set up that thread to filter all of blueangels posts directly to that thread??

[blueangel]

Originally Posted by KunjaPrincess

If you feel that is an attack you seriously need some thicker skin!!!

And that is an attack as well.. now can we please return to the discussion?

[KunjaPrincess]

Originally Posted by blueangel

And that is an attack as well.. now can we please return to the discussion?

NO that is a fact. Go ahead and report me. My skin is nice and thick!!!

[blueangel]

Originally Posted by KunjaPrincess

NO that is a fact. Go ahead and report me. My skin is nice and thick!!!

Whether one had thick skin or thin skin is not the issue. Launching personal attacks in an attempt to derail a thread are.

Now.. back to our discussion on AI. Do you have any comments on my previous post? I'll repost it here for you. I'm interested in your opinions on this:

One point that bothers me is the assumption being made that women interested in becoming a member of a sorority following college automatically know the proper protocol.. they often don't.

Please keep in mind-- all of you posting your concerns about this forum are involved in the Greek system. Most of you understand what is proper and what isn't as far as AI in your individual GLOs.

The premise that someone who wishes to belong to a sorority should make friends with someone else in a sorority is not always realistic. In my geographical area, sororities are virtually unknown. I have no family members who have ever been involved in the Greek system, nor do I know anyone at all (except one D9 woman who I work with, and one friend who I recently discovered is an alumna from a local) who is in a GLO. So.. who would I ask my questions of? If I lived in the south where GLOs are more common than not.. sure.. no problem. But I don't. And neither do a good portion of the population.

That's why I came to Greek Chat. After my paperwork had begun.. and had stalled.. I searched and searched and searched on the internet for some info about the process. I was absolutely delighted to find somewhere I could read about other women's experiences.

From these posts, I learned it was not uncommon for AI to take a very long time after the paperwork had been submitted. I also felt comfortable enough to PM some of the women here who wrote about their journey. They were extremely friendly and helpful... and got me in touch with people who could help.

Further, I now know of two women who had connections with their GLOs in college (one had received a bid but had to turn it down for financial reasons, the other had more vague ties). Both women learned through reading about experiences of people here, that it was a possible to reconnect with their GLO and become an initiated member.. although that possibility was remote. Both pursued it, and both are initiated members today.

If women ask naive questions on this forum.. so what? Let's try to help answer them... If they are going about it the wrong way.. what's so wrong with telling them that in a kind way? And.. if they think AI is easy, again.. what's wrong with helping them understand how difficult and rare it is? I make those comments with the caveat that we have no right to judge who is or is not "right" for AI.. it is up to the GLO's headquarters and the local alumnae group to decide.

One worry that was expressed is that the existence of this forum would "cheapen" AI by leading women to believe it's an easy process. I disagree! I think it's the opposite! I think that anyone reading this forum, and the many stories.. would see how difficult it is. There are also many PNAIs who posted their stories and were unsuccessful. And, of course. .there have been warnings by GC members to PNAIs telling them how rare it is.

And finally, I want to reiterate my point that this board is not encouraging swarms of PNAIs. In the grand scheme of things.. there have only been a handful or so in the last year!

Sure, it would be great if everyone interested in joining a sorority later in life had a crystal ball. But the fact is, they don't.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by blueangel

I'll repost it here for you.

Do you just love to read your own posts or something??

[KunjaPrincess]

Originally Posted by blueangel

Whether one had thick skin or thin skin is not the issue. Launching personal attacks in an attempt to derail a thread are.

Now.. back to our discussion on AI. Do you have any comments on my previous post? I'll repost it here for you. I'm interested in your opinions on this:

And finally, I want to reiterate my point that this board is not encouraging swarms of PNAIs. In the grand scheme of things.. there have only been a handful or so in the last year!

No there have been a whole lot more PNAI's advertising their stories in the last year or so though and many of them were very shady in the way they conducted their business.

The premise that someone who wishes to belong to a sorority should make friends with someone else in a sorority is not always realistic. In my geographical area, sororities are virtually unknown. I have no family members who have ever been involved in the Greek system, nor do I know anyone at all (except one D9 woman who I work with, and one friend who I recently discovered is an alumna from a local) who is in a GLO. So.. who would I ask my questions of? If I lived in the south where GLOs are more common than not.. sure.. no problem. But I don't. And neither do a good portion of the population.

NOt true, there are many ways to make friends with people in GLO's and Privately messaging members here could be an option BUT PMing 6 different people from 6 different GLO's is not the answer and PMing someone who lives in South Dakota when you live in TX is also not an option.

I'll look at the rest of your post later. Right now I have to go to my real life and go to my kids school.