dropping membership

[UGAalum94]

If you had someone that you had forced out of your group because of something standards based, it would break your heart to see them around publicly wearing your letters. I don't know how you would get all the clothing back, but if you could, it would be worth it.

Most sane people wouldn't want to wear the letters of a group that kicked them out, but if they had good judgement, they wouldn't have gotten kicked out.

I think it is important to note yet again that some (many?) groups have hardship alum status.

[GDIfly]

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

I think it is important to note yet again that some (many?) groups have hardship alum status.

How interesting! This is the first I've heard of hardship alum status.

If no: Then WTH keep the stuff if you're not going to wear it?

I would rather buy it off them than have it be on ebay, or on their non-sister person.

How would both of you feel about a former sister keeping a lettered shirt for personal memorabilia reasons? Not to wear, but to have as a keepsake of her time in the sorority. Even though for whatever reason she left or was forced to leave and even if her attitude has changed, at one time the sorority was probably very important and dear to her. Is there harm in allowing her to keep one shirt as a memento, a reminder of that time?

Originally Posted by GDIfly

How would both of you feel about a former sister keeping a lettered shirt for personal memorabilia reasons? Not to wear, but to have as a keepsake of her time in the sorority. Even though for whatever reason she left or was forced to leave and even if her attitude has changed, at one time the sorority was probably very important and dear to her. Is there harm in allowing her to keep one shirt as a memento, a reminder of that time?

That is precisely why I let my sister-daughter keep her stuff even after she de-pledged.

[FSUZeta]

i wouldn't mind if she kept a shirt, as long as she did not wear it while still in college.

[DSTCHAOS]

Keeping anything XZY-related is dumb if you are going to disaffiliate.

[Tom Earp]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Keeping anything XZY-related is dumb if you are going to disaffiliate.

Totaly agree!

What would it mean to them anyway other than to stir up drama?

[KSUViolet06]

I understand that not everyone terminates for a bad reason.

But the termination paperwork does not say "upon termination, member must surrender all lettered clothing/items UNLESS they only terminated for finances in which case they can keep the letters as a memento." The rules just DON'T say that. It clearly states in the paperwork that you have to give it back. Girls know from day one that if they depledge or terminate that they have to surrender everything.

For that reason, I don't agree with letting terminated members keep letters. If we let former members wear our letters, why don't we just hand them to random girls walking down the street?

My feeling is if you want to wear the letters so badly, stay in the sorority and try to work out whatever issue you're having or try to go alumna or inactive.