dropping membership
 

if someone depeldged your chapter, i know that they would be required to return their pledge pin, but would they be asked to return any t-shirts and/or gifts with the organizations name on it that they had received?

Yes.

It's rarely enforced, but some chapters do go and collect the former members pin and sorority memoribilia. Many are too timid to confront the person who cancelled, esp. if they were not voluntary cancellations.

LOL, maybe on your campus. It sure doesn't work that way everywhere :)

No, but I wish we did require them to return lettered items.

So do I! We had a few girls who resigned but still wanted to pretend they were part of the chapter. I'd see them in letters all over campus.

What she said.:)

When my first sister-daughter decided to depledge, she was asked to turn in her NM pin and NM manual as they were property of the Fraternity.

She was willing to give me back the gifts I bought for her, but I let her keep them (it was a photo album, some stationery, and 2 shirts that bore our letters). I had no need for them and I knew that she wasn't going to be sporting them around campus pretending to be one of us.

To be honest, she was a very sweet and caring individual who had to drop because of personal family reasons, and hopefully letting her keep these items reminds her of the fun she had in the short time with the Fraternity.

just to alay any concerns, my question was not based on my daughter.

she is doing great and is very happy in her chapter. she is looking forward to their first big party, "pledge bash" this friday nite. the theme is "the jewel in the crown"-they are to dress in victorian garb, so last week i frantically ran around to thrift stores and consignment shops looking for long skirts and frilly blouses and i mailed her pith helmet(from busch gardens years ago) and a khaki colored columbia shirt of her dad's for her date.

I know of at least one case when "those horribly mean alumnae advisors" were called in to do the dirty work. :rolleyes:

But yes, all was confiscated.

I can't imagine demanding anything back from a depledged sister. (Maybe the pin, but I certainly wouldn't give mine up if in the same situation.)

why not? if you have no affiliation with them, why would you want to keep their things?

my chapter always asked for the items back - all fraternity issues pins, handbook, etc; as well as anything with our name or letters on it. although not easy at times, you dont want someone to potentially misrepresent your chapter by wearing your letters around.

agreed!! and i don't know about other npc groups, but in zta we are told from the getgo that the badge is the property of the fraternity-we "sort of " lease it.

the chapter i advise had the situation once, where an initiated member who was on executive council dropped her membership, and it was heck to get anything back from her-she was seen around campus in a lettered t-shirt, which upset the members no end. short of hiring guido to strong arm her, what can ya do?!?!? why would someone who thought so little of her sisters and the organization want to continue to portray herself as being a part of that org? maybe it was just to tick everyone off?

Does your IHQ refund money for badges, initiation fees, purchased letter items, ect.?

If I paid money for them, I OWN them. End of story.

Now as to whether or not I would want to keep them, the answer is no, but I'd put them on ebay before I just gave my money away.