depledging

BirdDog · #1 09-24-2006, 12:21 AM

If you depledge you shouldn't have been pinned anyways. Pledge semester sucks and hell week is going to kill you. If you don't want it, don't do it.

sisterzip · #2 09-30-2006, 08:07 PM

Is there anyone in the fraternity that you can talk to? A big brother or someone else. I dont know your situation but when I went through pledgeship there were somedays when I was close to wanting to quit. Now that I have been a sister for over a year I am glad that I stuck it through. However If you honestly feel its not for you then leave. Brotherhood is life long. I have seen girls come through my sorority, do all the hard pledge work then disaper. Why work hard for something you are not even going to be part of

Elephant Walk · #3 09-30-2006, 10:52 PM

Depledge now.

adpiucf · #4 10-01-2006, 11:54 AM

To depledge, just inform your pledgemaster or chapter president of your decision. You may want to put something in writing/dated to them via email so that you don't get hit with a bill later for dues that you didn't commit to and you have proof of the date you depledged so you don't get hit with overdue late fees and dues notices. Something along the lines of "Dear Pledgemaster Paul, It is with regret that I inform you of my decision to depledge ABC Fraternity. I appreciate the opportunity to have met the brothers and look forward to maintaining a friendly relationship with the people I have met in ABC. For reasons beyond my control, I will be unable to fulfil the requirements of pledgeship this term. Thank you for your understanding. Sincerely, Petey the Pledge".

Depledging is not the end of the world. While it is common to question your choice of bids no matter if it was your top choice or not, if you have taken the time to think it over and you don't want to be in this fraternity, you don't need to be a martyr.

highflyerlaura · #5 10-01-2006, 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by sisterzip

Is there anyone in the fraternity that you can talk to? A big brother or someone else. I dont know your situation but when I went through pledgeship there were somedays when I was close to wanting to quit. Now that I have been a sister for over a year I am glad that I stuck it through. However If you honestly feel its not for you then leave. Brotherhood is life long. I have seen girls come through my sorority, do all the hard pledge work then disaper. Why work hard for something you are not even going to be part of

I agree with Sisterzip. Find someone in the frat that you trust thats been in it for a while and have a talk to them about your worries and reasons first. I've never been in a frat/sorority before (plan on joining a service sorority when I go on exchange next year though) though I have been in a lot of similar things before. I reccomend that you at least give yourself and them a chance, since as the semester progresses you will find that you will have more free-time and energy than you presently think that you have. Assuming that you are a freshman, you will soon find out that after you get through the first 6-8 weeks things start to settle down some because by then you should have settled in to your new routine and your lecturers should have settled down with the work some.

I'd still give them a shot and talk to a senior member that you trust first, though thats your decision.

TaterSalad 09 · #6 10-13-2010, 05:29 PM

I'm in a very similar situation, I go to the Unversity of Oregon and I rushed a fraternity, for obvious reasons I'm not going to say which one, but I'm considering transferring to Oregon State. It's not that I don't like the guys in the house, it's just I sat down with my counselor and he asked me what want to be, "I want to be a pharmacist." and he basically told me Oregon State has the pharmacy program and I should consider transferring. I pledged last week and have had this gut wrenching feeling in my stomach. I'm kind of at a lost at to what to tell them. I talked to my brother who went to Oregon State and he said do you really want to be a pharmacist. I guess my question is, is transferring to a different school because it has a better program for my career a legitment reason to depledge.

Always AlphaGam · #7 10-13-2010, 05:35 PM

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Originally Posted by TaterSalad 09

I'm in a very similar situation, I go to the Unversity of Oregon and I rushed a fraternity, for obvious reasons I'm not going to say which one, but I'm considering transferring to Oregon State. It's not that I don't like the guys in the house, it's just I sat down with my counselor and he asked me what want to be, "I want to be a pharmacist." and he basically told me Oregon State has the pharmacy program and I should consider transferring. I pledged last week and have had this gut wrenching feeling in my stomach. I'm kind of at a lost at to what to tell them. I talked to my brother who went to Oregon State and he said do you really want to be a pharmacist. I guess my question is, is transferring to a different school because it has a better program for my career a legitment reason to depledge.

You're in college because you desire to receive higher education. Your first priority should be what's best for you academically. Everything else, including being Greek, comes after.

33girl · #8 10-13-2010, 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by TaterSalad 09

I'm in a very similar situation, I go to the Unversity of Oregon and I rushed a fraternity, for obvious reasons I'm not going to say which one, but I'm considering transferring to Oregon State. It's not that I don't like the guys in the house, it's just I sat down with my counselor and he asked me what want to be, "I want to be a pharmacist." and he basically told me Oregon State has the pharmacy program and I should consider transferring. I pledged last week and have had this gut wrenching feeling in my stomach. I'm kind of at a lost at to what to tell them. I talked to my brother who went to Oregon State and he said do you really want to be a pharmacist. I guess my question is, is transferring to a different school because it has a better program for my career a legitimate reason to depledge.

This is probably the BEST reason that could exist. It has absolutely nothing to do with them personally. Just tell them you re-evaluated what you want to do as far as your career and it wouldn't be fair to them to spend the time on educating you as a pledge when you won't be there after this semester.

I take it you're already pretty sure you can get into this program/school? If you're not entirely sure, let the brothers know that too - that it's up in the air, but you would like to have a second chance at becoming a member if your transfer doesn't work out.