Difficult question

[33girl]

Again, I'll reiterate what I said in my posts in your other thread.

It sounds as though (to quote the Shari Bobbins episode of the Simpsons) the majority of the sisters are "happy with things the way they are." If most of the sisters feel that way - and your HQ isn't closing you down - it's going to be very hard to change things. If things were as ghastly as you make out, I think you would have been closed long ago (especially since there's no issue of holding on to real estate). I mean, I would love to hear from someone else in your chapter as to whether they think they're having a good sorority experience. I just feel like I'm getting a really really onesided view here.

I'm not trying to be Debbie Downer, but unless there's a little something inside the rest of the members that wants to change and is afraid to - one person can't change a chapter.

Incidentally, did your chapter follow the things the alumnae suggested or not? Do you think you would have done better doing the opposite of what you did?

And OK, I'm adding more to this.

I'm just trying to imagine how I would have felt if a sister participated in her first formal rush after being initiated, decided it had gone terribly, and called up her bio sister (who's from a chapter higher up on the food chain than ours and who just kicked our butts in rush) and then went, on her own, without the rest of the sorority knowing, to one of our alums and told her that everything is a fountain of suck in the chapter. I think I would pretty much tell her to go screw even if she told me she had found the cure for cellulite. You may be doing all this with the best of intentions, but it's coming out all wrong. You said you hoped to have a group of NMs to help with all this - that just tells me that you've given up on the current sisters completely.