is it necessary to ask if my rec was received?

AlphaFrog · #1 06-25-2006, 12:35 PM

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Originally Posted by PM_Mama00

Silence (disaffiliation) at my school starts May 1st.

If the chapter were to respond to you, that would be grounds for a rush infraction. NPC rules.

Especially if the sister slipped and typed by habit: Yes we got your rec with a

or

. Any minor thing can be misconstrued by an eager PNM.

FSUZeta · #2 06-25-2006, 01:44 PM

do not contact any of the chapters to see if they received a recommendation for you. as others have said, they are not supposed to communicate with you and your contact might constitute a recruitment infraction. and it might seem too needy on your part.

often a chapter will send a thank you note to the alumna at some point during or after recruitment acknowledging receipt of the recommendation, and many times will let the alumna know where the pnm pledged or if she did not pledge.

if you are concerned whether the chapters received the recs. written on your behalf, the best way to find out would be to have the alumnae who wrote them contact the chapter or their recruitment advisor.

SmartBlondeGPhB · #3 06-25-2006, 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

if you are concerned whether the chapters received the recs. written on your behalf, the best way to find out would be to have the alumnae who wrote them contact the chapter or their recruitment advisor.

I agree. But if the chapter gets hundreds of them, they aren't going to want to go hunting through the stack to see if yours is there.

SmartBlondeGPhB · #4 06-25-2006, 11:13 PM

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Originally Posted by ucfpnm

Oh, I'm not at all worried that the alumnas I've asked have sent them, I just want to make sure I gave the women the correct addresses and the right people have gotten them. But I guess it is a little unnecessary and I definitely don't want to break any rules, so I won't ask. Thanks guys.

The alumnae writing the recs should be able to find out where to send them with or without you telling them. I always send mine to whoever Gamma Phi lists as needing to get them.....

SmartBlondeGPhB · #5 06-25-2006, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by sunshine43

Hi everyone. I wasn't really sure where to put this, but since this thread deals with recs, I'll put it here.
I was just wondering if it is rude to e-mail people to ask for recommendations. Thanks for all your help!

If you know the person, no it isn't. If it's some random person you don't know it might not be rude but it's a bit tacky.