Oprah's On: Town Hall Meeting: Imus Controversy: Now What?

[starang21]

Originally posted by Tickled Pink 2
Sorry I'm just responding...

Well, cheating (like abuse) is not purely physical - it can be mental - and I suppose it depends on the relationship. If 2 people have made committments to be loyal to each other, yet person "B" (male or female) looks at porn, yes, it's cheating. Why? Because while he or she is looking at the porn, they are definately having some some "not so nice" thoughts about whoever they're looking at. Hence the wanting or lusting after what he or she is seeing and hence the cheating part. Now - if they've committed to each other and he or she still does this openly - it doesn't mean it's not cheating. It just a matter of how much is the other partner willing to tolerate. In Christian terms - the other partner may believe that there is a destructive, demonic "spirit" behind the porn obsession - and may prayerfully stay with the person if they've repented (as in Kirk Franklin's case).

Now if 2 people have an agreement in their relationship where they can view porn, have intercourse with others, etc.... it's not cheating (ETA: in the sense of betrayal). It ain't right .... but it's not cheating.

exactly what is mental/emotional cheating? how can you honestly emotionally cheat with a non-responsive image on the screen? men are visual creatures, so this is appealing to us in the most simplest form.