Question for Guys

[PM_Mama00]

Ok I've been reading "He's Just Not That Into You" and doing pretty well with it... but my ex continues to confuse me. (those on my lj friends list know the whole story)

James I know what you're going to say about the whole just cut off all contact. But I just am curious of why a guy would keep doing this.

Background: I've liked Sam* since junior high, and we were friends on and off until May of 2000, when we finally got together. It didn't last long. He started a relationship with another woman (I say woman cuz she's 11 years older than him) that lasted about 2 years. During this time, he would still call me, come over, hang out, hook up, do whatever. Then we went for a period of not talking, except at least once a month to hook up or bullshit. My feelings for him never changed since junior high. Sometimes we hung out on Valentine's Day or Sweetest Day, and we always hung out for my birthday. Keep in mind that while he and I weren't talking, I became close to his sister because we had class together and I still talk to her.

Fast forward to July 2004. We hang out, and things get started between us again. We're hanging out every night. We basically have everything the same as a relationship, except for the famous line... "I duno if I want a relationship. Sometimes I wana be with you, but sometimes I don't wana be with anyone". I fall for it. (stupid girl) He finally tells me (while I'm driving 85 on the freeway... stupid boy) that he doesn't wana be with anyone right now, but he still wants to talk to me and be friends. (riiiiiight) Then he just stops talking to me. Then a few months later he calls me outa the blue and asks me to go away with him for his birthday. I'm dumb, I thought that I could be just friends with him and agree to go. We never ended up going cuz we're poor, but we continue on talking. I tell him over and over again that he constantly hurts me (I admit it's my fault, I let him) and why does he come around if he doesn't want a relationship with me. He pulls the same shit again, and stops talking to me.

Ok so present time. I sent him an email, basically telling him he sucks, I deserve better, and to never call me again unless he wants to be with me. What does he do after he reads it? Calls me to see what I'm up to, but has no response to the email.


Ok that's the whole background. Damn that's long. And I told myself that I'd never post something like this on GC, but I'm so curious. Here's my question...

Boys. If you had this girl who liked you, and you knew that you kept hurting her, would you keep her around if you weren't getting anything out of it? (monetarily, sexually, anything at all) If so, why?

Lol I admit that I'm a dumb girl in this situation, so any criticizing won't really affect me too much.