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I've been in your shoes. My exfiancee was talking with an ex girlfriend I knew nothing about. Emails turned to a letter, which turned to phone calls, which turned to more emails, which turned to text messages...
Basically I found out all this stuff through his email - which i went through because the jerk ass would exchange pictures with other women online while i was in the same room, in bed. Now tell me...how do you trust that?
Well the emails he couldn't explain...he started making up shit that she was psycho. I found a letter laying on top of the trash can in our garauge...three pages. he claimed it was one she wrote 2 years ago....RIGHT! I'll be damned if I believe the woman wrote it 2 years ago. She spilled her heart and guts out to my ex and talked about how she knew he could never accept her child (cuz it wasn't his). The freakish part is she was engaged too (supposedly). Well I was practical and brought the letter to him and asked if I should be concerned...he said no.
Latter emails turned to text messages...ones that read, "I want you" and "I love you". Then he started taking his phone with him in the shower and locking the bathroom doors.
Now I have to say - I never snooped prior to him. But I knew that there was more going on. The final straw was the email she wrote talking about how they were going to meet at a hotel in San Antonio.
You know, I wish I had more encouraging words but sweetie - his mess drove me into a temporary depression. I cried EVERY DAY and when I confronted him with proof or evidence he claimed it was my fault for snooping and that he "told her to write that". Yeah - well even his mother knew what was going on and told him to knock it the hell off!
Though he broke it off - it was the biggest blessing in disguise. I wish to never have that drama in my life again. I encourage you to think long and hard about the issue of trust. Because as others have said, if you don't trust him enough to let him have his privacy - when will you? Furthermore seek pre-marital counceling. I tried but my ex wouldnt - hmmmm another sign.
Furthermore - you're personal happiness and sanity is more important. If you find yourself on edge or cringe (like I did) everything you know he's on the computer or getting a random text message...you know it'll never get better.
Feel free to PM me if you need to ever vent
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