I am SO MAD!!
I didn't think that this would ever happen to me, but it had and now I don't know what to do. My best friend, let's call her Amy, was an AOII with me. We were part of the recolonization class together, but after my sophomore year, she deactivated. She had her reasons, but I tried my hardest to convince her to stay. During this and this whole time after her deactivation, she bad-mouths AOII. When Amy and I would be talking to other people about greek life or something like that, Amy would break out with only negetive and hurtful things to say about AOII. Now, Amy knows and has known that I am still in AOII...I am still an active member. I never said anything to her about it because I thought that since she didn't say bad things to me everytime she saw me that I didn't want to make a huge deal of something pretty small. So, I let the bad-mouthing slide and that is my fault. Well, Amy is getting ready to complete graduate school and is filling out applications for jobs and sending out her resume. She asked me to look over her resume yesterday to see if there were any errors. I noticed that for activities at the school she put down AOII. I was a taken aback to see that she put MY sorority on her resume. But again, I didn't say anything...you know, pick your battles. Later on that same night we were watching tv and she was filling out an application. She asked me what kind of activities we did in AOII. I just told her I don't know. Then she asked me what kind of volunteer work we did in AOII. Again, I replied with an I don't know. In a very calm and cool voice, I suggested to Amy that she be careful putting AOII on her resume. She said that at one point she was in AOII which is true, but she is no longer a member. I told her what a teacher told me...the teacher was a Phi Mu and a woman that was hired into the office was also a Phi Mu. The teacher asked her when she was active and the woman told the teacher that she dropped out. It made the teacher upset that someone lied using her chapter and made her think about what else on the resume may be a lie. So, I am trying to tell Amy this story to advice against using AOII, but she cuts be off and says that she was once a member and gives me a NASTY look! So, I told her I was only trying to help and left.
This entire situation makes me mad! It hurts for her to bad-mouth a chapter that I love and then claim them on her resume. And to think that I was trying to help her...I was not telling her to take AOII off, though I should have. Amy is my best friend and I didn't want her to be questioned about the validity of her resume if someone found out she was not a member of AOII anymore. I haven't talked to Amy about any of this. She knows that I am mad that she gave me a dirty and I probably should tell her about all of this. But then again, I don't want to! Things are so stressful with graduating and then going into nursing, I don't want to just start creating more drama in my life. Has anything like this happened to you guys? What would you do in this case? I think another reason why I am hesitant to tell Amy about my feelings is that other things are going to come out on how she really doesn't treat me well as a friend in general. But, that is a different issue. Anyway, I haven't talked to her last night and probably won't talk to her today just for the fact that I am still REALLY angry by this whole situation. Any advice?
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