Crushed by Rush
I have wanted to be in a sorority since forever. I chose to go to a large state school because of the Greek system. Many women in my family are Greek and lots of family friends as well and they all encouraged me, and told me I would be rushed really hard. I looked forward to Rush for months before school started. I came to school with such high hopes for it all...
I went through fall rush and I thought everything was going really well, but then I was suddenly dropped by my top three houses--I was devestated. I decided not to fill out my pref. card. I still had really strong houses, but I just wasn't happy knowing that I would be settling for something other than my first choice. My rho chi was very sympathetic and advised me to sign up for informal rush. I did. Very few houses contacted me and they were not ones that I clicked with. I did not receive bids from any of them that were decent. My top three from formal did not contact me either.
I'm not sure why these houses did not want me. I don't want to sound like a snob or anything, but I have a 4.0, I'm easy to get along with, I dress well and I'm cute. I cannot see any clear reasons why they would drop me...
As much as I try to tell myself that I don't want to be in a sorority any more, I really do...I have recs. from all kinds of people available to me...should I contact the houses I am interested in? Or does that make me seem desperate? If you are dropped once, does that mean you are dropped forever?
What are houses looking for? I have been told my entire life that I am the sorority type...I know I'm not a bad person. If all the qualifications I have aren't good enough, then what does someone need to get into a house?
I would really appreciate any replies. I'm finding it very, very difficult to get over not being Greek. It really meant a lot to me.
Thanks.
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