I don't party, but my new chapter does! Advice, please!

[infj1013]

Hi!

I'm a transfer student (freshman, second semester) and I recently arrived and went through formal sorority recruitment. Because I wasn't here last semester, I don't know any of the girls (actives nor new members), but the reputation of the chapter that I have joined is that they are big partiers.

I...am not. At all.

It's not at all that I have a problem with drinking. I just don't want to get all dressed and made up to go sweat and drink crappy fraternity booze in order to feel included. I'm not trying to judge, either. What people do is their own business. I'm just absolutely terrified that I won't find anyone like me even when sober, and I don't want to have to go out to feel like I fit in. I feel like I've joined the wrong chapter.

Does anyone (active or alum) have any advice? We can't have meals at the house until we're initiated, so that's not really a way that I can meet people, either.

Please help! I don't want to drop, but I don't want to pay to hang around the edges of everyone for three years either!