Thinking of not initiating next week.

[honeychile]

I'm going to repost something I posted on the thread of someone else who toyed with not being initiated, and also the lead in from rockwallgreek and the response of jolene:

"That magic connection may never appear in your college years. Yes, you will find close friends in your chapter, not necessarily immediately, but realize that this is a Lifelong sisterhood. I've found my true, close sisters, as I've moved through life. The women I work with as a volunteer, the women who welcomed me as I moved from pkacesetting to place. My husband spent 25 years in the military... My daughters who are now my sisters. It takes work to make those connections and I cherish each moment I have spent and continue to spend, cultivating those friends and sisters." (rockwallgreek)

"Yes.

And in addition, once you're in the Greek Community, you may find wonderful Panhellenic friends from several sororities. You may not have the bond of wearing the same pin or catsuit during initiation, but you will have many, many shared experiences." (honeychile)

"THIS! HC, I hope I can meet you in person one day. My last quarter in school (my school is now on a semester system), I was a Rho Chi. I met a Phi Mu who was a RC for her sorority. We met and there was no looking back. We were instant BFFs. That was in 1995. We'd show up at frat parties together & the guys would be like, "Why are you here together?" Then later if one of us couldn't make it and we'd be with others, it would be, "Where's J?" or "Where's T?" For privacy's sake, not writing out our real names. Jolene is a childhood nickname of mine. Basically, it became a case of where there's T, there is J.

If my sister hadn't been my maid of honor, it would have been her. We are still thick as thieves to this day. I'm one of the only peeps from college she's still in touch with. Yes, I made many close friends from my sorority and later my alumnae group, but I also made close Panhellenic friends, her in particular. She's the type I'd lay down my life for and was bummed I didn't meet her sooner. You may find a Panhell sis who will become precious to you." (jolene)


In a nutshell, it cannot be stressed enough that it's not four year, it's for a lifetime. AND, sorority is much more than one particular GLO's letters, it's the entire greek scene. Doors will open to you for being a part of the greek system that would not otherwise open. Best of luck to you.