re-reushing as a sophomore transfer and terrified

[AZTheta]

I can't say it better than Katmandu. Take her words to heart.

There is something inside of you that you need to look at; it has nothing to do with any sorority house (chapter or facility or whatever) or its members. It's YOU, girl. It's YOU that needs work.

Every single one of us has worked to fit into our sisterhoods; and to a certain extent, we still do. It's that old "you get out of it what you put into it" expression that comes to mind. As an undergrad, it took time for me to make the connections and associations that endure to this day. They happened, but not at the speed that you get when going through the MdDonalds drive-through. I'm still in contact with most of my pledge class, with my Big, and with the chapter itself. It's taken effort, and it's been worthwhile.

Another example: I don't expect the Alumnae Panhellenic I belong to to meet all my needs and be a "good fit". Instead, I volunteer for a committee role and attend events with a cheerful attitude. I attend meetings, I do fund raising, I interact with Alpha Xi Delta and Alpha Gamma Delta and Delta Gamma and Sigma Kappa and Kappa Kappa Gamma and Alpha Delta Pi, on and on through the NPC alphabet - all the members - and I have a good time. I consider them my Panhellenic sisters, because they are. I also put effort into interacting with my own Theta sisters in the Alumnae group here. EFFORT. I don't sit around and wait for things to happen. I make things happen. I make it a good fit for me. I don't expect anything from the women in either group. However, what I've gotten has been incredible, and way beyond anything I could ever have imagined. It took time for that to happen. Again, effort.

You've had two opportunities to have what we have. TWO. And you've walked out on both. What makes you think door number three is going to hold the million dollar prize? Take a long, hard look at your expectations. We all have clay feet.