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Originally Posted by OPhiAGinger
I'm sorry to hear about your family situation, DNP, and I agree that none of us can fully understand the dynamics of that family. Hopefully the truth will come out in court.
But, in your situation which was truly an abusive one, do you feel like your parents owe you the cost of a college education? I think that's the part that is over the top and has people siding with the parents before they know the whole story.
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My grandfather passed away when I was a senior in high school. He had left me money that I was suppose to use to pay for college. Because of this money my parents would NOT let me work or apply for scholarships. He passes before I turned 18. When I turned 18 my parents got control of this money and used it to control me. This is a very long story, but i often give the example of a kid holding a cookie and saying to a younger kid, "want the cookie?" and the little kid nods his head. The older kid holds the cookie and makes the little kid jump up or do other do something else. My parents help this money over my head for years telling me what I had to do to get the money. I did everything that I they said until I could not take it any more and left. Trick is that my parents gave the money to my brother, so he got his money and mine.
So, No I do not think that my parents just own me money because I was abused, however I think my parents own me this money and interest. I want to be clear, This is legally my money. But the will was written in a way that my parents got control over it and there was no specifics of me having to get it. I guess this made sense because grandpa was sick for about 10 years before he passed. If he though oh DNP is 8, she should not have access to this money. That would make sense. But My brother got his money when he turned 18, which sets a presidency that this money is mine.
The problem is that I have talked to lawyers who say things to me like, what is wrong with you, you want to sue your parents? Um yeah, I want the money that is legally mine. By giving the money to my brother that are stealing money from me. So, what is wrong with? um, my parents are stealing money from me. That is what is wrong.
Life is too crazy to really pursue this. It is hard to put energy into this. My grandmother (who was married to the grandpa who left me this money) recently passed and left me money, it is not even half of what grandpa left me, but it is better than nothing. So, I am able to go to school. But it is still hard to think about what my life would have been like if I had gotten the money, that i legally should have gotten, when I was 18. I try not to think about things like this, but trust me, I can let myself get really pissed off playing the what-if game.
DNP
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