Should I give it a second shot?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Jnorts

I have been planning on doing formal recruitment for a LONG time. I am a freshman, it was this week, and I got cut HARD. We had two open house days and on the third day, I was only invited to 1 house instead of 5. Not only that, but it was the house that I didn't like AT ALL. I could tell that those aren't the type of girls I would bond with, so even though my RG tried to get me to still go to the party, I didn't. I was heartbroken and completely dropped recruitment and I can't believe I won't be a part of a sorority like I hoped. I'm thinking I was just too nervous and therefore didn't talk enough, and I was so focused on impressing them that I just smiled a lot and didn't act like myself. Hopefully that's the reason I got cut, not because all the girls that I thought I bonded with hated me.

Obviously I don't need to decide now, but should I do informal recruitment in the fall? I feel so defeated and hurt, but still feel like I belong in a sorority. At my school, as far as I know, all sororities participate in informal because I remember them all advertising at the beginning of the year. Or will the fact that all the houses cut me haunt me again and end up with me being rejected for the second time?

My biggest thing with a second shot at recruitment is if you feel you will regret NOT doing it, by all means, do it.

Keep in mind a few things:

1. During informal recruitment, chapters are working with a certain number of spots based on spring graduates and such. It's a little different than formal, so not every chapter will participate and there are few, while they will participate, will not have many spots.

2. Bear in mind that a second try doesn't always yield a more favorable result. Ex: The chapter you had left could be the only chapter to extend you a bid or invite. Really think about whether you'd be ok with that.

3. Legitimately sit down and ask yourself "What will be different NEXT time to make a chapter more likely to give me a bid?" Really reflect on what you could do differently. Were you too shy? Were you rude? Were your grades not as high as other PNMs? Did other women have a lot of friends in chapters when you did not? Make an effort to change that.

4. Be open minded. Ask yourself "Do I want to be Greek or do I only want to be in _______ or _______ sorority?"

With that being said, best of luck to you if you decide to try again!