What advice to give to others who get that "no" multiple times...

[SLAM<3 Always]

Originally Posted by KDCat

If I had to come up with a response to that (VERY RUDE) PNM, I would say something like this: "It doesn't matter how you end up in the organization that you end up in. If it's going to work out and be a positive experience, the organization has to provide experiences that you enjoy and want to have, and you have to bring positive traits that contribute to the organization. You can't just chose a group because 'nobody else wants me.' You have to ultimately find something of value in that group and bring something of value to that group. Before you chose an organization, you should think about whether that group can do that for you and whether you can do that for that group."

I think this is a great response, KDCat!

On the other side of this though, I would give her a chance. She wants to be apart of the organization and community. She will probably come into the organization for the wrong reasons (the hoodies, etc) but will probably stay because the relationship that she builds. I won't deny doing this for a service organization. I joined for the wrong reasons, but ended up serving as the VP of Membership (saw a 200% membership increase that year), VP of Service and eventually as chapter President. I met my best friend because I joined that organization and I know we will be each other's MOH in the coming years.