Hesitant to join Alumnae Chapter

[greenalumna]

Good morning!
I recently found Greek Chat and am really glad I did because I do not have anyone with an unbiased opinion I can ask about my situation.

I am an alum of a sorority in a city with more than one alumnae group. One is in the major metro area and the other is pretty far from the metro area. After I graduated, I was not as involved in my sorority due to burn out but also because of work, family life, etc.

Recently, I wanted to get involved as a member of the group but I realized that the VP of the group is a sister who does not care for me. We did not get along in undergrad and she made it pretty clear she wanted nothing to do with me. There was some gossip and now I feel uncomfortable going into a group where she is such an active member.

I'm not sure if I should join the group regardless of her presence. She made it very uncomfortable for me during our last year and I do not want to feel that way again. The other group is too far for me to be involved with on a regular basis. Any advice?