Are you a PNM wondering what you can do to "improve your chances" at recruitment?

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by AXOrushadvisor

...with a man helping a women on with her coat, a gentleman opening up the car door and pulling out a ladies chair.

No, those unnecessary things are not just about manners.

If you think they are, that highlights how manners and necessity in this sense are subjective. Some people think "thank you" cards are manners and, therefore, much needed and others think the "thank you" is implied (or stated) in even being asked to do the favor in the first place.

I think the larger debate in this thread is whether thank you cards have an impact on a PNM's chances. I can't speak on that as far as NPC but I can say that the lack of any type of thank you, or a Soror's belief that an aspirant is ungrateful in general, can impact the aspirant's chances if the Soror cares enough to talk to the Sorors who are in charge of membership intake. That does happen but it isn't rampant.

<===lane swerve from someone who tends to both write and receive "thank you" cards, emails, or some type of interaction that shows appreciation