Shutter Fraternities for Young Women's Good

[Alumiyum]

Common sense says don't go upstairs with a stranger at a party alone, don't walk down a dark alley at night alone, don't accept a drink from a stranger unless you watched them make it, don't leave your drink unattended...those things NEED to be accepted as safety measures instead of "blaming the victim". We all know perfectly well that if a woman does do any of those things and is sexually assaulted, it's still the fault of the perpetrator.

And I for one do think men and women are, generally speaking, different. Yes, some of it is because of the socially acceptable gender stereotypes, but some of it, IMO, isn't. That doesn't mean those differences equate to "men can't control themselves sexually" and "women are helpless". Most of my friends are male, and the only people I consider "best friends" are male. I have two brothers. I don't believe any of them think that their penises are more important than a woman's right to say no. And yes, they tell me all the time how difficult it is to go out with a girl, be invited inside, and then realize she just wants to talk, not hook up. I have no trouble believing that. But do they just say "fuck it, my dick needs it NOW"? Nope. (I wouldn't associate with men that didn't think that way, for obvious reasons.)

My view is that if one person attacks another sexually or otherwise, it's the perp's fault. Full stop. But that's no reason to throw caution to the wind.