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I think there are a zillion reasons for this, and I actually am not suprised that it happens. First, as others have mentioned, there is the burn out factor and I don't think that a chapter being top, bottom, or in the middle has anything to do with it. There are always issues, even for strong recruiting and award winning groups and when you have been that invested you just need to take a break.
We encourage our collegians to be super involved on campus and not limit themselves to just class and sorority, so NPC alumnae tend to be involved adults as well. However, once one enters the working world, the free time shrinks tremendously and people must decide how to spend their limited time away from work and (possibly) family. For me, I wanted to explore some new endeavors instead of just regurgitating the ones I had already been doing. Therefore, my free time was spent exploring outdoor activities, getting involved with my church, participating in organizations related to my career, volunteering heavily with the Komen foundation, and oh yeah, happy hours/social opportunities. Lots of happy hours and social activities. It was a new town- I didn't want to just hang out with women again.
And yes, agree with those who said that sometimes you just don't mesh with the women in a new city. I experienced this personally when I bravely showed up to a Founders Day event not knowing a single person. The people who were sitting at my table were of comparable age to me (early to mid to late 30s) and their very first question was "Which country club are you a member of?" This was asked in such a manner that their assumption is everyone is a member of some club, but that there was only 1-2 acceptable responses for that very large city. Whatever. You think I ever showed up to another event after that?
I now live somewhere different and have been uber involved in the alumnae chapter here. Different stage of life, different stage of circumstances, and now the time is right. I think that I had to get away from it for about 10 years to come back and appreciate it.
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