I've searched and searched, still looking for some help...

[DrPhil]

LOL. 33girl, having Depression-Era parents doesn't make or break this discussion. That's just how your parents raised you and how you applied it to your GLO membership.

Members have different personalities and preferences. Every chapter has at least 1 person who doesn't want to do the EXTRA things that other chapter members want to do. Some people do these things anyway to build a bond and/or shut everyone up. Some people do not. My chapter had at least one Soror on every Line who did not like to attend social events. It was baffling at first but we understood that different personalities and preferences are a part of the Sisterhood. The Soror would only get told about herself if she tried to act like she was holier than thou. As for our own chapter's social events, Sorors knew that hating to dance or hating loud music doesn't keep them from collecting money at the front desk for a few hours or organizing the event in some other capacity.

And years after college, we're all still very close and no one gives a damn whether the Soror liked to attend social events in college or not. A few of them didn't begin attending social events until we were all in alumnae chapters. The collegiate events just annoyed them.