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Originally Posted by pshsx1
Do you realize that when you're extended a bid in the BMP and become a member, you go through Sigma Ritual which is the equivalent of your pledge of intents. As the VP of Member Development of my chapter, I make sure that everyone earns their way into the heart of the Fraternity. No one is just going through the motions--not in my chapter. You didn't even get our 12 founding fathers right, so don't begin to tell anyone that BMP chapters don't learn the history. Also, although I didn't have a pledge class, I did have a Rush class and I depend on these guys more than anything. We've been through everything together. There are 7 of us left because the BMP actually weeded the other 11 out. Still, I know all of my active Brothers and a ton of alumni really, really well. Another thing, you said pledging turns the guys into better men. That right there is 100% the goal of THE BALANCED MAN PROGRAM. I've talked to guys from pledge model chapters and most of them do not live up to SigEp values. I will not discredit your pledging experience and I actually do wish I could have experienced pledging.
We don't just coast through the BMP. There are things we actually have to do just like pledges.
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No BMP inductees do not go through full ritual until they are older and that is completely untrue. BMP is turning a great social fraternity into an academic honors society which is NOT what a fraternity is supposed to be. Go to any school where SPE has been forced to become balanced man and they are a bottom tiered no matter where you look. I have been to schools where they are BMP and NO-ONE takes them seriously. It usually starts with "they are wimps, they have pledging, no one takes them seriously on campus, give bids to everyone, etc." The only chapters that are still relevant and produce the wealthiest and most successful alumni are those that are (or were) traditional chapters.
You must have some period of mental and physical anguish to bring men together and respect each other. Think of it as a bit like boot camp where you turn civilians into men who would take a bullet for each other in a second. It sucks for a few weeks but after it is done you will never be the same. Some of the activities are what would today be considered "hazing" but this is still needed to build better men. Yeah so maybe some of us were "hazed" but so what? It was hazing and pledging that turned us into better men. You can't just give someone their letters immediately without them proving they are worthy of them.
The same can't be said for BMP there is no real obstacle to becoming a brother. You said you have met brothers from pledging chapters who dont live up to the fraternity's values. Maybe our interpretation of the founding principles of the fraternity are different then yours. In our eyes in order to build virtue, diligence, and "brotherly love" you all must suffer and go through hell together before you can really really live up to these principles (particularly the latter).
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