Pregnant Active Sister Problem

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I know that this particular topic has come up before, but to clarify, I am asking for advice on the advisor level. I am not asking what to do if someone is going through recruitment.

I advise an organization that is in it's 2nd year on campus. The chapter has a large colony class and made quota plus their first year out of recruitment. However, there is an issue that keeps popping up time and time again.

One of our actives (that was chosen by our Nationals) has a child. She gave her son up for adoption, and it is an open adoption. One of the new members, it has been found out, also has a child the same age. I, and the other advisors, do not have a problem with this. We think that it is admirable that these women are in their children's lives whether they are adopted out or if the mother chose to keep her child.

Our problem is that several active sisters (including those on a Standards committee) keep rehashing and making these 2 women feel like they should not be sisters and have out right told the active sister this. These two sisters have become close b/c of their children. These two talk about their children, but not completely out in the open. They have been told that they would be called to the board if they kept talking about their kids.

I know that this is a sensitive topic, and that is why I am asking for advice. What would any of you do? Us advisors are fairly new advisors, and have tried talking to these women on both sides and nothing has worked. We are open to suggestions.