Question reguarding joining a fraternity

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

You need to get an official letter from your national office, which most would not grant.

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

Why don't you think they wouldn't grant such a letter? . . .

This should have gotten one of those "it depends on the organization/chapter" answers.

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

Granted I'm using just my fraternity, but it wouldn't surprise me if this was teh case was with most. Psi Upsilon constitutionally doesn't recognize somebody withdrawing from membership.

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

You should have prefaced your response with that statement

I've seen several people drop one NIC organization and join another.

But do you know that the "several people" whom you've seen drop one NIC fraternity and join another had a letter from the first fraternity stating that they had withdrawn from membership? (And if not, should you maybe have prefaced your response with that statement? ) Maybe they were doing it all without any national offices. or maybe even chapters, being any the wiser.

Just based on the responses that have come up when this has been raised before, I suspect Vito's assumption is fairly accurate. And in any event, it doesn't matter here whether most fraternities would or wouldn't release the OP -- it only matters whether SAE would release him.

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

So, in other words, you don't really want to know what we have to say unless it reinforces you wanting to break your vows to one fraternity so that you can join another fraternity and maybe do the same thing to them? I mean, just so we're clear, here.

Yep. We're clear.

Originally Posted by cheah

well latina...you obviously do not understand my situation....these guys in these other fraternities are my best friends from home and I fully plan on continuing trying to get this accomplished . . .

Actually, she and everyone else understands your situation better than you seem to do. You've gotten the only constructive advice you're likely to get -- see if SAE will formally release you in writing (ie, release you from your oath) and then take it from there. But don't expect people here to encourage you to lie or break your oath -- in other words, to gain membership in a new fraternity by demonstrating a complete lack of integrity.