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Originally Posted by gee_ess
Do not try to discuss the why and how of last recruitment. To do so with the members, puts you in the position of receiving info that could ultimately hurt you. For example, The comment that "everyone in the house loved you but you were too shy" implies that next time, they will give you a bid because they all know you better now. Those girls cannot know what will happen next year. And to imply that things will go better if you are more talkative, etc is misleading. Therefore, you will go into rush thinking "They all know me now. I will be a Barcelona for sure!"
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Just reiterating this. Your friends who just joined have never gone through recruitment on the "other side" (as sisters, not PNMs) and likely do not have a very good grasp of their org's policies on MSS. I've seen it happen
a million times:
Group of friends rushes together. All but one friend gets into a desirable sorority. Left-out friend does not receive a bid anywhere, drops out, turns down her bid elsewhere, whatever. Group of friends SWEARS they will "get her in" in the next recruitment, so the left-out friend re-rushes, confident that because her friends have given her tips and are on the other side, she'll get a bid. She doesn't.
And though no one can say for certain what happened, here are the 3 most likely culprits:
- The opinions of 4 friends (who are new, lower-ranking sisters) who like a PNM don't outweigh the opinions of the rest of the older, more respected sisters who cut that PNM for their own reasons last year.
- The chapter has a once-cut, always-cut policy that these 4 friends didn't know about or understand before recruitment begun.
- And the toughest scenario: The 4 friends were being polite when they told their friend they could get her in, when they know that as much as they love her, they could never in a million years see her as an XYZ for any number of reasons.
At this point, the left-out friend either joins a different sorority (usually one of the ones she was left with last recruitment) or stays indepenent. It doesn't mean she can't still be friends with her XYZ friends, but they just won't wear the same letters.
I'm sorry if this sounds unecessarily tough. But honestly, I've only once or twice seen it happen that a PNM re-rushes and gets into the org that cut her before because now she has friends on the other side. And the bid has never been to the "top" groups. *BUT* others may have different experiences - I'm sure they'll chime in.
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