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I think it was the girls really wanted to get to know me, I was just shy. My friends from Barcelona have been trying to give me tips of why I was dropped, and it was just because I didn't talk enough. Other than that they said the house basically would have loved me. (This is if I correctly translated their hints).
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Strawberrygloss, for some reason, you have brought out the maternal instinct in me. This comment concerns me because I do not want you to try to sort out or interpret comments (however well meaning) that are made by the members. Yes, it is probably okay to let you know that not enough girls knew you or that you seemed shy, but I am strongly cautioning you to put the past in the past and start anew. Do not try to discuss the why and how of last recruitment. To do so with the members, puts you in the position of receiving info that could ultimately hurt you. For example, The comment that "everyone in the house loved you but you were too shy" implies that next time, they will give you a bid because they all know you better now.
Those girls cannot know what will happen next year.And to imply that things will go better if you are more talkative, etc is misleading. Therefore, you will go into rush thinking "They all know me now. I will be a Barcelona for sure!"
I am not telling you this to discount that you may have, in fact, been overly shy and hard to talk with during recruitment, and chances are, this did negatively affect you. I think most repeat pnms learn a lot about themselves, etc during their second recruitment. This may be true for you.
I am only warning you to go easy and
let the past recruitment stay in the past. Just make friends with girls. Be a friend so you can make a friend. The rest will come.
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