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Originally Posted by littleowl33
Mmm, I don't agree with this. My chapter was in a "New York" situation when I first joined and a number of my pledge sisters were less than enthusiastic about accepting their bids. These same girls got extremely involved, have all held high-ranking officer positions and learned to love the chapter while helping to immensely improve it. Heck, I was one of them! I went through recruitment with my heart set on another chapter, but re-rushing at my college doesn't yield any different results due to the "once-cut, always-cut" situation. I accepted my bid and haven't looked back.
And in terms of the dating analogy - you can date without getting married! I'm a big advocate of trying out the New Member period and dropping before Initiation if it truly doesn't work out*. I don't know of any group of sorority girls so heinous that a NM couldn't stand to hang out with them for a month or two (but I do know a few guys like that...  ).
*This is only if you know you are not going to have another shot with a different chapter. If you might, then your chances could be ruined if you join one group and de-pledge before Initiation. |
I think the bolded is where I strongly disagree-i find a problem with "learning to love your chapter." Hate to go back to marriage analogies, but it feels a LOT like an arranged marriage-the whole "the love will come later" attitude.
I think if there were less women joining chapters in hopes of "learning to love" their new home, you'd have less new members wanting to depledge. And maybe in the grand scheme of things, its a really small percentage of women this happens to. Not all women are going to get their first (or even second or third) choice. But to accept something you really didn't want, and then having to grow to like it... You want greek life that bad you'd settle?
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