If she is into nature, an ecotour through Costa Rica might really be fun. I traveled to Costa Rica this time last year and it is the most green place that I've ever seen. Beautiful country.
Here I am playing devil's advocate again...
Ok, Darling1, I was reading your post and noting that you indicated that she may want to prepare herself for marriage if she wants to be married. Not that you said this, but I wanted to get your thoughts and other's thoughts about the following.
I posit that perhaps being married has nothing to do with getting one's self together or improving one's self. Maybe it's all about G-D's time for you. For example, how many people are a complete mess, yet still manage to find someone to marry. Look at Soror RD's friend. She's a proverbial mess (sorry RD, but it's true - I've got some friends who are messes too), stepping out on her man, and still wanting to get married. Perhaps a little more self-development was in order? Who knows. However, the fact remains, she's getting married. All of this to say, why do women sit around consoling each other talking about they have to work on themselves in order to get married. I think that it's good to improve ones self in general in life, but I think it's dangerous when self-improvement comes in the form of isolating one's self from the dating scene. Now, you didn't say this but I think alot of women think, I'll just focus on me for a year or so. Why does dating and self-improvement have to be mutually exclusive in some cases? Why does marriage and self-improvement have to be mutually exclusive in some cases?
Just some random thoughts,
SC
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Originally Posted by darling1
Black Socialite, I can empathize with your friend. SC made some excellent points. Marriage is not the be and end all. It is just one aspect of your life. It sounds like your friend needs to GET A LIFE. What I mean is, perhaps this is a good time to self reflect. See what it is she truly wants. I nice conversation with God is in order. If she truly desires to be married, then it take preparation. She needs to get herself right and ready to receive her mate. If she is just feeling unfiulfilled then maybe a career change or a change of scenery might help. pick up a new hobby, travel-stepping outside of the comfort zone might kick her spirits up a notch.
Black Socialite, you come off as someone who is on the go. Maybe you ladies can go sky diving, do an ecotour in Costa Rica, or take dance lessons.
I hope my suggestions help.
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