Spouses of Ques

[SoEnchanting]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

QuietStorm236
I don't know how long it will take for an Omega (probably Wolfman) to respond, so here's my take on it.

Talk to your husband first, as ladygreek stated. Tell him that you understand that he's experiencing something new and that it's so exciting for him. Tell him that you are also excited for him but do not want to feel lonely and alienated. Discuss your expectations of him and his expectations of you and whether expectations have changed now that he is an Omega. Hopefully they haven't changed but rather include a new commitment.

I assume he's graduate chapter. The wives of the graduate chapter brothers may be really nice and there might be events where you can mingle with them. It's a good idea to find people who can relate to your experience (without you giving them a sob story, of course) and attend some events so you can appreciate how hard your hubby works for Omega.

QuietStorm, I just want to reiterate that DSTCHAOS gave a wonderful response here.

I actually am Greek, and was Greek long before I met my s/o and before he joined is graduate chapter, so while I can't completely relate to your post it reminded me of my initial feelings of insecurity when he first joined his fraternity, which is a part of the NPHC. I am in a multicultural sorority, which is relatively unknown to his older brothers. It seemed like most of their wives and were NPHC as well. I really wasn't sure how I'd be accepted by everyone, if at all. And to keep it real, deep down, I was afraid our relationship might change now that he had found all these new people.

The first step here is realizing that it's not about him and his organization. It's about you and your insecurities about a part of his life you have no control over. This is something you need to either work out on your own, or discuss with him ASAP. I think if you don't it will have implications throughout the rest of your relationship together.

Anyway, to finish my story... At the end of the day, I knew this was something that was important to him (because I know how important it would have been to me). And because of that, I made sure that I supported him. I put my best foot forward and attended events. And I can honestly say that I've gotten nothing but love and respect from each of his brothers, as well as their mates. Everyone has been super nice and if anything this experience has brought us closer. His extended family has become my family (or inlaws? lol), in a sense.

It worked out fine for me, and I hope you are able to make it work out for you.