Bad situation with Big.. what would you do?

[AlethiaSi]

Originally Posted by mh*e

First, a disclaimer: this post is about gifts I gave my big during a week where all the new littles give their bigs presents in my chapter. I've talked to other sorority women who all seemed to think that this was unusual, so I just wanted to clear that up.

I don't want to get too into details here because I am sure that any number of people I know could be reading this (hi there), but basically, I did my VERY BEST to meet my big's specifications for the gifts she wanted, and how she wanted her paddle made.

However, she was unhappy with them. She really hurt my feelings by yelling at me saying that she thought the gifts/paddle were "insulting" and "disrespectful." Then... she said she would "allow" me to buy her a "new set of gifts." I told her flat-out that it would not be happening. And then...

I never heard from her (or my twin) again! AND... she removed me from her Greek family tree on Facebook (I have a twin who is still there).

I don't know if I should even bother trying to fix our relationship. I kind of miss having a "big" and a "twin" and it complicates my relationships with the rest of our "family"... but I kind of think she's crazy for demanding new gifts and dropping her little like a rock like that.

Also, she is officially dropping the sorority at the end of this semester.

What do you all think?

I agree with everyone, that is really rude. My Big and I didn't have much in common and sometimes we clashed, but ultimately, I know she was always there for me, and I could still call her up today, 2 years later and she'd still be there for me.
It is really unfortunate that your Big would treat you like that, I would talk to your New member educator, possibly the President, to let them know what's going on. This is mainly to protect you in case she starts saying things (lets hope it doesn't get to that, but just in case). Maybe they can handle the situation, or can help you talk to her, or can advise you otherwise.
Over time, I would see if an older sister would adopt you into their family line and focus on having a little and developing a great relationship with her, so that she doesn't have to go through what you have had to.
Good luck!