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Originally Posted by AuburnPNMmom
Am I kidding? No, I am just stating the facts. It is difficult to make an 18 year old see things the way we older girls do. I know, and you know, it ought to be based on the personalities only, but it is not. Both in the rushing sorority and the rushee. That is one of the things that matters to a girl just out of high school. Believe you me, I have told her it is her decision and to please make it based on how she interacts with these other girls. I also want to give her some idea of what she may face if she turns this down. I don't think the sororities she would like to be in (there are actually 10 of the 16 she in interested in, just had a top pick) offer COB bids and take very many upperclassmen. I also pointed out that the 2 sororities who have offered bids may not look at her next year.
I guess I just needed other girls who understood what I am feeling here. Helpless and seeking to say the right thing to help my daughter make the best decision.
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I understand what your saying, and like everyone is saying its your daughter's decision. Honestly, we can tell you all the right things to say to your daughter but to your daughter it might not be what she wants to hear. As much as you think that all she wants is sisterhood, all the "tent talk" really can get to her, and skew her decision of what she ultimately wants (trust me i've been there).
Tell your daughter everything that we've been saying but ultimately let her decide. She's gonna have to live with her decision for the next 4 years. If she decides to not accept the invite and rush again, be supportive but don't do the "grunt work" (i.e. finding out how many sophomores get bids). That is not for you to do, she's in college now--let her do it.
Also realize (and let your daugher know too) that next year, all the new PNMs will have everything going for them, plus something she doesn't----being a first time freshman (which is much more desirable).
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Originally Posted by LadyLonghorn
I doubt this is the issue at all. You seem much more concerned about
her not being in a lower tier sorority that is somehow beneath her. You know, the ones that have to COR now.
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I think your "evaluation" is off. I'll admit that i critize a lot of "helicopter moms" but at the moment I don't think AuburnPNMmom is (of course i could be wrong). She's not trying to push her daughter into getting a top tier sorority. It seems as mom wants to see her daughter has a happy sorority member, but daughter's too much into getting into the "right" sorority.
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