Here's the scenario

[AKA_Monet]

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I think the 1st scenario is quite far-fetched if one has been committed to another for a long time. They should know something about each other by the time the ask has been given. Moreover, the friend who becomes best man/maid of honor should be a "friend" enough to tell the lowdown if they say they are the friend. I know truth can be stranger than fiction, so your account may be really happening, and I also think that there are other issues in the relationship that this particular couple needs to resolve besides past failed relationships.

The 2nd scenario--my husband invited his X (whatever) to our formal ceremony. But homegirl did not know where our location was and decided to not attend, although it stated that information on the invitation. I found out when homegirl called my mother who started asking questions because she acted extremely ghetto...

I don't have any suggestions regarding this scenario.