Quote:
Originally Posted by PrettyBoy
The thing I cannot deal with is a jacked up family background. If she comes from a mixed up, or ghetto family background, there's no way I would even consider it. I wouldn't care if she was fine with 50 degrees, I wouldn't do it. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. To me, this is marrying down, because I want to marry a woman who has the same family values that I have.
|
A person's upbringing and family doesn't necessarily affect his/her family values. If someone's family is "mixed up" or "ghetto" and (s)he had enough sense and resilience to get "50 degrees," then obviously (s)he has a good head on his/her shoulders and wants something more than what (s)he has been taught. It's unfair to think that an "apple doesn't fall far from the tree." I know SEVERAL people (myself included) that may not have had a fairy tale upbringing and wishes to offer more to the family that (s)he may one day have. If you discredit someone based on something that is outside of his/her control, you could miss out on something great. None of us are able to choose our families, nor can we control or alter their behaviors, regardless of how hard we try.
Threaded Mode