ITA that there should be programs set up especially for women whose husbands leave them. However, I think if you chose to have your children out of wedlock, then you've made your bed, both literally and figuratively, if your man leaves you to do it on your own.
Women need to make wise choices and understand that they may one day HAVE to do it alone. Make sure you are old enough and secure enough to have a child before getting pregnant. That's what condoms are for, or better yet, abstinence before marriage.
(Not that I did that, so I am not preaching-it's just an option)
My husband and I waited 6 years before starting our family b/c we knew it would be expensive, and we wanted to work hard and save so that we would be in a good financial place when our kids came along.
As for not being able to afford an education. That is crap.
Public schools are free. And anyone who wants to go to University
can these days, with grants and loans and scholarships. Work hard, make good grades and there is NO excuse for not getting an education. My parents paid for virtually NONE of my education although they certainly could have. I got scholarships and grants for most of my tuition. I worked an on-campus job for spending money. My on-campus housing was paid for with my scholarships.
I think there should be programs in place for woman who are abandoned with children. But they should be limited to job training, temporary housing and food. After 6 months, they should have sufficient skills to get a job. There are plenty of jobs out there with minimal training requirements.
When I was struggling to pay of my debt as a single girl, I worked some God-awful jobs. And they weren't what I wanted to do with my life and I wasn't proud to tell people I worked at a skeezy restaurant that serves wings (you know the one), and also delivered flowers in the afternoons! This is in
addition to my 'real'job.
I know it is harder with kids, I worry all of the time what if something happened to my husband? What kind of job would I find after being at home for so long? Who would be there for my kids? It isn't that i don't have empathy for people in difficult circumstance, it's just that I am a realist and know that most people create their own misfortune.
Again, even my preschooler knows that "You are responsible for your own actions".
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