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Girls are no different than guys in many ways. If it's too easy, then the value of the conquest is questioned. It is a matter of conquest because it reflects on the individual doing the persuing.
If there is a "hot" girl and YOU get her to go out with you, it gives you a sort of status amongst your friends. You go out with a mouse and your friends say "Oh, so and so is a really nice person." (yawn)
I don't know why the sexes chase after peple that initially treat them like 3 day old fish, but it just seems like a lot of them do.
"Hard to get" is a lure and it works both ways.
It has been said over and over-when you stop looking, that's when love finds you.
Maybe we should ask how many girls have been attracted to jerks! I bet we all have at one time or another. I'm not saying to be a jerk, I don't think that would be possible for you, but maybe a tad more aloof?
In the bar-That happened to me(NOT AS EXTREME) and a guy did help me out but it went a bit differently-
I spotted this guy watching the situation, I gave him a desperate look. He MOUTHED "HELP?" I slightly nodded my head. He came over and said something like, Hey, I've been looking all over for you, put his arm around my shoulder-extended his hand to the jerk and introduced himself then said to me lets get a drink.
SMOOOOTH and no physical conflict. There ARE ways. We got to know each other, went out a couple of times but no click for either of us. We remained friends. Oooops there's that horrid word, "friends". Still, at least the initial attraction had a chance.
UM girl is right-Its all b/c of the "Waffle House" (as my sorority called it) system. Most of the time, we want our friends to help us out of the jam, but there are rare times when we dont want (Sometimes are friends think they know what we do and dont like too )
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