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Convenient Relationship
So I've been dating the same girl for months and have yet to waltz the last dance.
I know now that I'm a victim of a convenient relationship.
A few months ago I read an article during a business trip that SO described me on an airplane ride in the Mid West. It was primarily an advertisement for a "singles recruiting service" that was founded by some big wig lady who used to recruit professionals in a Fortune 500 company. She quit her day gig to begin this service. The article said that most divorces in America are triggered by relationships that are bound by convenience. When a young professional is fresh out of school and begins a career the individual tends to focus on his or her new job with sincerity and determination. Working the ladder of success requires devotion and much sacrifice. This why you typically see a lot of single young men and women on Wall Street. In the event that one of these professionals finds a date that is somewhat tolerable then he or she engages in one another and create a type of escalation continuum. The escalation continuum is primarily nourished by the need for having a partner and maintaining a relationship. When both individuals work full-time and spend limited time with one another it's easy to get blinded, have casual sex, and fulfill each other's needs. This is a primary conductor of this type of escalation continuum. What ends up happening is that eventually the couple gets married and may even have kids. However, many of these individuals don't begin to realize that they're not really that compatible until it's too late. As ambitious men and women we are willing to sacrifice some to fulfill a separate need. This is a simple give or take model and its human nature.
This is me. Anyone here in a convenient relationship or have any advice how to move forward?
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