My husbands cousin J was just out of HS going to college to study aero engineering and he came home that fall in Sept to see his family and gf and ended up getting her pregnant. Their family is VERY wealthyand very respected in the community and they were VERY mad.
I can't speak for the gf at all because I like her alot, but a lot of the family say she did it on purpose because she didnt like to take birth control. They said she did it because she was still at home taking classes at the community college while the bf was 6 hours away at college, enjoying life and she wanted to keep him so she got pregnant. My hubbys sister thought for a while the baby wasnt even their cousins.
Lets say this all happened last year, well two Septs ago because the baby will be 1 this August and they LOVE that baby to pieces. I will say it screwed up everything. She is adorable and everyone now loves her and its not her fault, but the gf made the cousin feel so bad and he was so upset about the situation he failed all this classes because he couldnt concentrate and missed his finals and ended up moving back home to his parents. Now he works full time and takes classes at the community college and is taking care of the baby and his gf. The gf dropped out of school and doesnt work.
Her family all got pregnant before they were out of HS so I think she thought thats what its suppose to be like. She had a friend that had that happen to their senior year and she kept saying to her bf I want a baby.....
I honestly think if he would have stayed at college and didnt get pregnant, they wouldnt be together still... I feel for them and I love the both and the baby, but it messed their whole future up because of it. I just hope they both make something out of the situation. She is talking marriage now.....
I think it is totally fine to have a baby but not be married. While I only know of my hubbys cousin that this happened to, I think its fine if you are a adult and love someone and get pregnant. I think if you can afford it and know the responsibility, more power to you.... People have babies without a partner even so its fine... I think if you are still young it may be a problem because you get into something you may not be ready for. Thats a chance you take when you have sex though.
Every situation is different. I think its fine. I know the religion I was rasied in says you shouldnt even have sex before marriage so that is their views, but everyone should be allowed to live their lives how they want to.
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