Once a Player...?

[lovehaiku84]

Hmm... interesting conversation.

I think that if you are someone who is going to date several people at the same time there is nothing wrong with that. Keeping your options open is great. However, like someone said it becomes a different story when feelings become involved. And I believe that for men and women the whole issue of feelings is dealt with very differently. I wouldn't say that women just naturally assume that they are the only person that they are dating. This is 2005 and I think we are all old enough to know that exclusivity is not something that you should make assumptions about. I think in some cases they expect to be told and in others find themselves w/ feelings for someone, even though they "know" that things might not be exclusive. For a woman who has feelings for a man, it is not so easy to just be kept in the dark and then be say, "surprised" by the fact that the guy she has been dating is all of a suddent dropping her to be with someone else. I think in the case of a man who has feelings for a woman, the same thing goes.

Along the same lines, what are some of your definitions of a player? I find it interesting that doing that is called "dating." Is there a such thing as a player to some people?

PS. I do think that players can be reformed. Its just messed up that they may have left a whole slew of broken hearts along the road to reformation. At one point I was a player (according to my own definition) without even knowing it. But all it took was hurting one person and being able to connect with how they were feeling to make me feel that I would never "play" or do things that I knew would hurt someone else again. Then after I went through it myself I definitely knew that I wouldn't.